How much do "normal" people drink?

Question

My wife states that my drinking in my studio or with a friend playing guitar twice a month is excessive and that I'm an alcoholic. I don't go to bars or clubs, I just like to cut loose wirh friends playing guitar. Am I nuckin futs or what?

Answer 1

It sounds like your wife doesn't like your hobby not your drinking.  Twice a month is far far far from being an alcoholic.  When you have these gatherings do you get so smashed you can't find your way home?  It sounds as though these occasions are ways for you to drink with your buds and release the typical stresses of life.  Tell the wife that she needs to compromise, it's not a daily event.  Read the link I have left and this will give you some insight.  Maybe you have the answer already.

Answer 2

you're not an alcoholic at all. people who drink everyday, all day are alcoholics. not people who drink twice a month. i drink twice a week and I'm not considered an alcoholic

Answer 3

I think its fine whenever my band and i get togeather we cut loose with captain morgan.

Answer 4

SHOOT! I'd be darned straight grateful if the guys in my past only drank TWICE A MONTH! And I'm practically almost a non-drinker ( I only drink once every several weeks to some months). But instead, they drank everyday or close enough to it! To me, twice a month is not bad at all as long as the person don't get drunk and obnoxious.

I saw your other question, and she should be grateful that you invite her to go to your friends with you. Not all guys are like that.

But it may be as some others say, and it has nothing to do with your drinking. She may have other issues and just pretending it's drinking, or maybe she grew up with alcoholic parent(s).

Answer 5

An alcoholic isn't determined by amount of frequency. Alcoholism is about need. Alcoholics have an UNCONTROLLABLE NEED for alcohol.

Moderate drinking in men is 2 drinks per day.

Depending on if you want a fight or not, you can either look up information on the health effects of alcohol and the appropriate (moderate) usage of it. Or you can tell her to suck her hole you aren't an alcoholic.

Me, I'm a fan of s*x. I'd go into it with knowledge.

Answer 6

I odn't think there is a norm for the amount of drinking anyone should do.  Some alcoholics seriously "have" to have it daily.... some people have a drinking problem because they drink only occassionally, but might drink way too much... some people have a drinking problem because they just make stupid decisions when they are drinking and "relaxed."

If you don't feel like you have a drinking problem and your wife thinks that you do, you should have a better conversation with her. Not just "I don't want you to drink" "well I want to" "you have a drinking problem" "no I don't"

What you need to communicate is that it is a nice way for you to relax with your guitar buddies and that you feel like you are in control at all moments.  What you need to find out from her is what she doesn't like about your drinking.

You say it's not a problem, so I'm going to assume you have done none of the following:

1. cheated and blamed it on drinking

2. gone to hospital

3. been arrested b/c of drinking/activities done during

With that assumption, here are some ideas that may actually be what she is upset about:

1. She may be feeling ready for children...maybe she feels like ANY drinking is too irresponsible for that next step that she is ready for.  She may just not know how to approach you with the subject.  In this case, you should communicate to her that you will always put her and your family and your responsibility to them first.

2. She may not like some of the ideas and beliefs that some of your guitar buddies have. Maybe she feels like you'll be relaxed and drinking and they will talk you into their thoughts rather than hers.  If this is the case, I think you should make sure that you chat with her afterward and share some of the things that you talk about and make it clear that you don't agree...for example...if one friend is single and talks about the club he went to and girls he met, say something like, "I just kept thinking about how happy I am to be with you and that I don't have to be in that whole scene anymore..."

3.Maybe she is jealous that you spend "down" time with them and talk and enjoy, but wants that attention.  If this is the case, you don't need to take the time away from your friends, but make sure the time that you spend with her is more meaningful. If you watch a show on tv together, talk about it and your opinions of it. If you go out somewhere, have a meaningful conversation.

Anyway, basically, I don't think the "drinking" is really the issue. I think it's something behind it.

Good Luck

Answer 7

Normal people average about a case a day....

Answer 8

If you're music is more bent towards precision Don't drink too much is your music worth it?