How much does it cost to put a 15 year old child up for adoption in minnesota?

Question

im having real problems and my daughter has suggested this too but we were wondering approximetly how much it costs to put a child up for adoption,

Answer 1

I can take her for free! LOL!

Answer 2

Of course, the problem is with your daughter.  There is something wrong with HER - not YOU.  Right?  It surely has nothing to do with how she was raised.  As an infant, maybe stuck in a crib in a separate room or shoved off to daycare right after she was born, or shipped off to camp every summer as soon as she was potty trained (maybe sooner)...

Has she been inconvenient for you ALL her life or is this only a recent development?

HEY maybe you can ship her off to a "wilderness therapy camp."  She would have a pretty good chance of dying there.  Problem solved!

http://www.sltrib.com//ci_7144838?IADID=...

Then again, maybe your daughter should put YOU up for adoption?

Answer 3

Why do u want to give her away so late?  i'm sorry for what you are going through , but u should  reconsider.    If she is having behaving problems, why don' you just put her in a girls home?

That should help her alot.  Or why don't you just put in in a boot camp or something?

Answer 4

Lady, you have got to be out of your mind! Do you know how many women there are out their who can't even have kids? You have this beautiful, precious gift, and you want to throw it all away.  Instead of dumping your child, why don't you get some therapy for your family instead of taking the easy way out.  Get a life and appreciate the gift you've been given!

Answer 5

We're homestudied and live in MN. We have a 16 year old guest (for the school year)  in our house who would be a wonderful example. (real sweet kid; spends a lot of time studying) Now, are you having the problems, or is she?

Answer 6

Im going to guess that this is a joke, not a very funny one either.

Answer 7

I do not know much about the system in Minn but I know in Mass there is not an overwhelming (well there are none) number of people who want to adopt a 15 year old.I'm confused, you raised her for 15 years and now you want to put her up for adoption?

Answer 8

Don't put her up for adoption!!!!! Get through this with your daughter don't put her up for adoption!!

Answer 9

Boy, it sure is interesting how everyone is so anti-adoption when it's a 15-year old.

If this had been a BABY, what would you people be saying?

"Oh, you're so BRAVE, you're doing such a LOVING THING..."

This is about the most hypocritical turn of events I have seen yet.  R on the FL

Answer 10

Your daughter would likely end up in Foster Care till she is 18. There are few people that would adopt a 15 year old, even more one that has some issues. So the likeness that she would get adopted at this age is very slim. Don’t get me wrong there are couples out there willing to adopt teenagers sometimes its after their own children have left the nest but they are few and far between.

Answer 11

Now this is one h**l of a weird question!

who would adopt a 15 year old? At first I thought it's 15 months old!!

Dear, there are too many bad things waiting for her if you give her up...if she agrees with this its probably because she's so immature! But you are not. Think about it.

15 y/o girls get assaulted even in their own families, you cannot do this to her :( she's gonna end up doing drugs and all these other horrible things than many teenagers  do.

If she's big enough to be involved in this decision for adaptation, then sure she's big enough to figure out a better way with you out of this. It just sounds so wrong....

Answer 12

Are you serious? You can't just give up on your child like that. Nobody wants to adopt a teenager because everyone knows they are trouble. You need to stand up, put your foot down and figure out how to get through this. Do you have any relatives that may take her for a while? Think back to when you were 15, did you make great decisions?

Answer 13

What kind of parent are you?! I hope this is a bs question...because it is pretty sick. And you aren't getting a dime!!

What were you like when you were 15?!?!?!?!!?! She's a teenager! Did your parents put you up for adoption in your teen years because you were being a problem?

You are a sick person who should be ashamed!

Answer 14

"we" were wondering?  you are involving your child in financial concerns over putting her up for adoption?

maybe you should put yourself away - you sound like you are out of your mind to even think about that.

Are you having problems or problems with your daughter?

i would seriously think about your actions and go talk to someone about your state of mind - you are not thinking clearly

Answer 15

every one i think this question is to prove a point to the 15 year old

that or THE MOM is having problem her self and this is the best thing for the child  "im having real problems and my daughter has suggested this too"

Answer 16

dont put kids in adoption...they LOVE there parents toooooo much

Answer 17

Do you mean that someone you know wants to adopt her, like a family member or friend of the family, or are you talking about placing her with the state, and hoping she is adopted? If it is the latter, then you should know that there is little chance or her being adopted this way, and she will likely be in foster care or a group home until she turns 18.

   If your daughter is suggesting this, then she probably imagines being adopted by a nice, wealthy family who will let her do what she wants. She and you both need to know that this is not going to be the case.

   If you are having problems then please seek the help of a family counsellor. Raising a teenager can be very difficult, try finding a support group in your area. If you truely can not handle caring for her then perhaps she could go stay with grandparents, an aunt, or someone while you both try to deal with the problems that have led to this situation.

Answer 18

wow. you have got be be kidding. you have 3 years left. you need to suck it up and be an adult. you are probably why she is the way she is. all you show her is if it gets too hard than give up. so you both have decided to give up on each other. I have always expected that from my adoptive family but it's insane to hear it from someone that has already done most of the work. that's just sad.

Answer 19

Free????Social Services will take of her.......Foster care, therapeutic foster care..15 years, and you want to give her up for adoption?????I would suggest therapeutic foster care, where you can visit and she can be cared for by another family, it might work better for the both of you.Actually I have heard of this happening before, both parents were in to drugs, ( heroin), and the decision was foster care, ( crown ward)..

Answer 20

Wow... I cannot believe that you even posted this.  How freaking unbelievable...

God at 15 I am sure my parents were asking how to give me back.  (I actually AM adopted)

And this is whats freaking wrong with the world.

Answer 21

It doesn't cost anything to put a child up for adoption anywhere...who are you giving up and why?

Answer 22

does she do dishes???

ok, seriously.  if you are having problems with her, i would suggest going through your local social services agency. they might have some resources to assist you.

raising teenagers is tough, but they eventually grow up.

Answer 23

why give up now you already raised them for 15 years

Answer 24

Your costs would likely be $3-4,000 assuming the judge goes along with it.  You'll need to get a lawyer with expertise in kinship adoption. If the person who is doing the adoption is not related, then it is likely the costs will be higher and require a more extensive home study.

My friend, who thought she had lupus, had her sister and husband adopt her son due to her inability to care for or supervise him (he was 13).  She passed away about a year after the adoption was final.  We all live in MN.  It is actually not that unusual when the situation involves someone who has mental illness, increasing disability or knows that death may be imminent.  The parent's wishes are guaranteed to be followed, while they may not be followed if left to a will or family members.

edited to add: also keep in mind that guardianship is also an option.  Gives all the same rights to the guardians, but it is not necessarily permanent.  Your daughter would be eligible for things such as the guardian's health insurance.

Answer 25

Whoa........you want to know how much it costs??????

Oh this is one for the books!!

Throw in the towel, give up.........

Sure, let her go to a place where she WILL BE assaulted!!!!!!!!

You give no details as to why. And if this is your biological daughter......

I am sitting here totally bewildered.........

Go ahead. Here is another statistic just waiting to happen........

Drop her off at DHS, and drive off, just like my mother did to my younger brother and sister, when they were 11 and 12 and a half.......You go ahead and live with that while they get screwed up in the head, turn to drugs, and don't amount to squat!!!

UGH........

UGH.........

the EASY way out!!!!!!!!!!!

You go ahead and sleep at night, not knowing if she is. Or where she is. Or who she's with. Or if she is eating. Or if she is dirty. Or if she is cold. Or if she is sick. Or if she's been beaten. Or if she is sad. Or if she is lonely. Or if she is DEAD!!

UGH!!!!!!

But you won't have the stress, eh???

hmmmmm.................

:(

Answer 26

How do I adopt her??????   She better not be on drugs.

Answer 27

You cannot be serious

Answer 28

Please don't put your daughter up for adoption. Go to counseling instead. It is very hard for a child of that age to find a home. She will be 18 in three years, bare with her.