How much does our relationship mean to her?

Question

My gf of 11months and I love each other...but whenever we get in fights, that feeling that....this might be it for her....that she might not want to do this anymore....that feeling comes over me and I can never tell how much our relationship means to her.

i can't tell if our relationship is worth more than the struggle/hardships to her.

Maybe I shouldn't think about it any of this that much...and just live in the moment, but how can I tell how much our relationship means to her?

Answer 1

You could ask her at a time when you aren't fighting.  

Answer 2

depends on your feeling. your thinking.  because love is a part of feeling understanding each others.

This fight is also part of love your feeling.  you can not fight with any one.  because when your feeling does not match it create fight.  And how strong you love some so how often you start fight.  

just compromises under stand and share love and respect each others.

Answer 3

This is normal to feel this way. I bet she is thinking the same thing. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with her during a time when you are close. Don't put this off, it seems to be bothering you, life is too short for any unhappiness.

Answer 4

I wish I had a boyfriend like you, because the way you feel, is the exact same way I feel when Im in a relationship.

Turns out, I have every reason to feel that way.

My boyfriend and I had a fight today, and I had this feeling that it was over, He didn't want it anymore.

I was right.

Answer 5

communication and understanding is all it takes to make a relationship good. a month ago all my an my ole lady did was fight now we talk about everything and yeah its great i get lots of s*x now

Answer 6

look the key to a good relationsship is comunication tell her how you fell allways be strait forth be nice but strait forword

Answer 7

in a realtionship you shouldn't fight about things.

maybe she has mixed feelings about your relationship and it's up to you to put in the effort to make her feel comfortable and decide her feelings so she can be open and tell you.

then you won't have this problem

Answer 8

Hmm, this makes a change, a guy who cares were his relationship is heading.  Why not sit down with her at a time when you are not arguing and bring up the subject carefully. Be gentle with her but bear in mind that a large proportion of couples fight, it certainly does not mean there is a problem. If you feel that you do love each other (which you obviously do ) don't put too much store in the fighting, sometimes it's just another form of communication. Just in case you haven't found out already, make up s*x is NOT an urban myth, enjoy it LOL.

Good luck, I hope you hear the answers you hope for.

Answer 9

keep it simple. Don't pay attention to the fights, pay attention to how she takes the relationship when you are normal, i mean, not fighting. When we fight we sometimes just wanna commit murder, so, chill out, and see how she behaves in your normal peaceful days, that will give you the real response.

Answer 10

you sound insecure. has she threatened to leave you, or cheated on you? have you had past lovers mistreat you? if so, you need to deal with that feeling of worhtlessness because you DO MATTER. It's ok to fight, couples who are passionate argue, but not to the point that you are demeaning each other or are sayinfg hurtful, spiteful things. and you should not feel like everytime you open your mouth that she's going to leave you. she shouldn't make you feel like you are walking around on egg shells. if she does, then you need to reevauluate your relationship