How much is too much?

Question

Check out this article about one of the more recent trends for bridal parties. Make sure to get to the bottom to read about the bride who wanted her bridesmaids to get breast implants!

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/24/fashion/24skin.html?_r=2&ref=fashion&oref=slogin&oref=slogin

Thoughts??

Answer 1

1.  I (hopefully!) don't have any friends that shallow.

2.  If as a bridal attendant I was asked to have liposuction, breast augmentation, and/or botox?  I would decline, and I would also then decline the opportunity to be Shallow Bride's attendant.  It would definitely strain the friendship . . . or more likely, end it totally.

Answer 2

That is way too much...no one should want to be in a wedding that bad..unless she is paying and you wanted them in the first place

Answer 3

I'd cry if i had someone request that i get botox, breast augmentations or lipo. my sister made a comment about us losing weight before her big day and i want to lose weight before mine which is a year after her's. its hard to believe that anyone would suggest that. why not just hire some models to be your bridesmaids and call it a day.

Answer 4

OMG

People are insane.  I could not see people doing that!  I guess you could offer it but never REQUIRE it.  I think if my friend told me I had to do that, that would be the last time she ever spoke to me.  And the breast enhancement thing...well, I don't even know what to say.

Answer 5

The insanity of it! Where do these brides get the nerve!

Both my SO (H2B) and I were like this is unreal and would have told the bride to take a hike.

When we marry in 6 months time I will be 40 and he will be 43. The comments on the age are really rediculous!

Answer 6

A day at the spa....great idea.  A bride telling me I am not attractive enough to be a part of the wedding party....I am not friends with those type of people.

Answer 7

I feel that with the popularity of all those bridal shows and stuff, brides feel like it's okay to do what that article states.

The focus today in many weddings is no longer the marriage, but the party and everything leading up to the party.  I feel like we've trivialized marriage.  Personally, as a BM I would put my foot down--brides are unrealistic and have these unrealistic expectations, which is only worsened because everyone around her simply enables her.  I got married and had no expectations of my bridal party--I didn't nitpick about their skin and hair and b*****s...I was simply happy that they wanted to stand up for me and share in my happiness.

Answer 8

That is insane. Youshould never ask a bridesmaid or anyone to get something like that done. That is so rude. It's like a slap in the face, "hey, you are not good looking enough to be in my photos so go get this done"

I thought the breast implant thing was funny. I have been a bridesmaid and a MOH many t imes and was really shocked when once a friend told me that I need to get breast reduction surgery to be in her wedding because my b*****s were bigger than hers and didn't want me to wear my engagment ring because my stone was bigger than hers. I refused and she tells people about how I tried to ruin her special day.

Answer 9

LOL!!

I watched an episode of Bridezillas and one bride wanted her flat chested bridesmaid to stuff..I was like WHAT?

In my wedding all I did was picked out their dresses..with their help..they picked out their own shoes and accessories to their style (the shoes were dyed to match the dresses) and did their hair the way THEY wanted.. Everything turned out wonderfully..I think some people are too big of control freaks!!

Answer 10

LOVE IT!!

I've always wanted BOTOX and a chem peel. but never do it because I can't justify the cost.

What an awesome GIFT for being a bridesmaid.

Answer 11

wow...what if someone's allergic to botox...however if this out of control bride is requiring botox, she should pay for it.. Breast enhancements i think is CRAZY, ..thats outright surgery...hey if i was wanting to get them done anyway and no one knew about it...and someone required me to have it...i'd be tellin her to pay for it! lol

Answer 12

I think a day spent together with bridesmaids is fine....

a day spent at the spa getting beauty treatments....fine...

If everyone is in agreeance, and this is the lifestyle they choose, then fine as well...However, I personally would not be okay with being FORCED into anything. I'm trying to put myself in this situation. If the bride offered to pay for me to get say a face peel, or some sort of spa treatment to treat my acne or blemishes, or tanning, etc...I would probably graciously accept. It would be when she asked for minor surgeries and for me to pay that I would have a problem and would decline!

Answer 13

I think this definitely counts as to much. Although I'm considerably younger then these ladies I would never dream of telling my friends "Come do botox with me", however I also live in a very different part of the US so things like Botox aren't as common here.

Answer 14

Oh, jeez- if any of my friends ever wants me to get Botox or a boob job for their wedding, I'll tell them where they can stuff their ugly taffeta dress!!!!