How much should an 8 yr old know about s*x?

Question

i baby-sit this 8 yr old boy and his mother said he started talking to her about s*x saying he knows mommy's and daddy's have s*x and actually being graphic about it like the mommy gets undressed and the daddy takes of her undies and puts her in bed then gets on top and stuff. is that normal?

and another thing about him he has a 4 yr old brother who he manipulates so much like he says that he collects toy guns so now all the guns are "his" and he wont let his brother play with them. also he is a very bad kid and and his brother copies every thing he does and no matter what it is if hes brother tells him to do it he will do it and i mean things like hit my butt and run around the house screaming I'm afraid one day he is going to get his little brother really hurt.

Answer 1

Its normal for the little 8 yr old boy to know about s*x, his parents probably gave him "the talk" already, so just try not to talk to him about it and about his little brother. Its normal for him to copy his big brother, but if your afraid they are gonna get hurt then punish the 8yr old instead of punishing the little boy.

Answer 2

He shouldn't know nothing about s*x.. But if his parents do it around him and he sees then he will know all.

Answer 3

It sounds like in your description that the mother is not the one who talked to him about s*x. He probably learned it at school from friends. Regarding the brother, talk to the parents about your concerns, he may keep this behavior in check when his parents are around.

Answer 4

dont worry, kids normally know more then they should

For me, by the time I as 8 I knew more then the 11 year old 5th graders. Just keep the little brother occupied, toys coloring books, playdough, footballs, anything!

Answer 5

When I was 8, all I knew about s*x was that men and women got naked in front of each other.

Answer 6

Eight year olds hear about s*x at school anyway so why shouldn't they already know about it from "the talk"?  But it sounds more like he didn't learn about it from "the talk"- sounds like he learned it from seeing a naughty movie or something.  It's pretty sexist, this idea he has about s*x anyway, like the man controls everything and the woman is like some passive blow-up doll or something.

Anyway, whatever, I wouldn't worry too much about it, that's not your problem.  As to the discipline problems, try and play games with the two of them, read to them both, etc. instead of letting them run around since it sounds like they don't quite have the art of playing together down yet.

Good luck

Answer 7

wtf? the boy watches them have s*x? dont the parents do nothing?

Answer 8

I'm not sure I understand the question, its kinda all over the place, however, I think its great he knows about s*x at age 8 (hopefully from mom and dad talking to him) if you hide talking about what s*x is this only creates curiosity and the child will be more likely to be sexually active due to his curiousness

Answer 9

yes it is possiblt for him to know if he has asked his parents questions and also boys talk at school. As for guns. Take them away put them up high and tell him while you are there he will not play with them. Tell the parents about his behaviour and how they want you to deal with it

Answer 10

He may have walked in on them or kids at school like others here have said. At 8, he does not need to know anything about s*x. What for? Any questions that have came up with my 8 yr olds now or their cousins can be answered simply. The parents need to talk to the child and teach him that although s*x is natural it is for adults to do and talk about, not 2nd graders. As for the brothers and the copying each other; thats how siblings are. So by stopping him with the s*x talk now, you will not need to with the younger one until he goes to school. I give little tests to my kids every now and then with very general statements, and the normal answer for an 8 yr old with anything about girls or kissing in my house is EWWW!

That's what 8 yr olds need to know about s*x.

Answer 11

Well and 8 year old should know nothing about s*x actually!! Or at least no that s*x is bad for little kids! !And about the youngest brother getting hurt! You need to tell the mother about everything they do! Then take control don't let them run you!! Put them in time out!! Every time they are bad but don't put them next to each other!!

Answer 12

when i was eight i thought shut up was a swear word and i was brought by storks

i hope that answers your question