How much should we spend on this wedding gift?

Question

My boyfriend & I were invited to an old friend’s wedding. I’ve never met the bride or groom. My boyfriend use to be good friends years ago, but rarely keep in touch. I cannot attend due to prior travel plans. My boyfriend is going alone. How much should we plan on spending for the wedding gift? I typically spend $100-$150 if we both attend. What is the “going rate” for only 1 guest?

Answer 1

i spend $50 on wedding gifts

Answer 2

I will spend around $100.  

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Answer 3

It depends on how close they are with each other. I suggest maybe 50 to 75. Dont break the bank for people you hardly know.

Answer 4

a $75 gift card to a place where they are registered at

Answer 5

There is no "going rate," because people should spend whatever they can afford and/or want to.  In your case, I would either leave the cost decision up to your boyfriend (b/c he's going alone and it's his friends); or spend $50-75 based on your "typical" spending; or spend whatever the heck you want to.

Answer 6

There is no "going rate" for a wedding gift. It should be for whatever you two can afford at the time. If they have a gift registry use that as a guide on what they need.

$50 to $100 is fine.

Answer 7

You give whatever you can afford without going into debt for everyday expenses.

In this case, just give $50 or so, or something cheap from their registry.

Answer 8

Almost all weddings I go to where I really don't know the couple that well anymore I give about $50 sometimes $100 if it's a fancy wedding where they spent a lot per guest.

I think if only he's going he should only give about $50. But etiquette police will tell you to give the same even if you didn't go. So if you go together you'd give 100 then apart give 100.