How much time should i give him........?

Question

i posted a question earlier.........here it is (long story short, my husband left me and our kids while we were on vacation at my families (toke the money, didnt get us a plane back, and changed number and moved out). I was in shock it hit me from the left feild our relationship was getting a lot better and we both were happy when i left. anyway.... during that time his family told me he moved on and is sorry. I got p**s drunk had s*x with old friend (dont remember much). but my husband and i are working it out and he wants to be back with me we sought help and he bought us a new home to move into and he asked the question.....DID I HAVE s*x WITH ANYONE well i dont lie so i told him the complete truth and now he is not wanting to be w me. He said he was faithful, and he wants the kids and is really mad. anyway is he going to get over it or should i or what should i do to make it better????)...............now how much time should i give him because my kids start school next week and i need to sign them up?????

Answer 1

If you want to work it out with someone who did that to you, it's your own business. Personally,though, I would never be able to. He left you (Not even at home and didn't let you know he was doing it)...and now he wants to be upset because of what you did after he abandoned you?

Thats a load of BS.

I'm sure you can do so much better, and be with someone who will be a better influence on your children. It seems like too much damage has been done and you should really think of what this is all going to do to your children.

Even if you guys start working it out, with the new home and such...always ALWAYS keep in mind what he did to you before, and what he's capable of doing to you.

I say don't give him any time, and give him a taste of his own medicine. Leave.

But again, that's just me.

Answer 2

The only chance you have is to be as sincere as you can.  Tell him how badly he hurt you when he left and how betrayed you felt, tell him exactly what happened and why, tell him how you feel about that and about him.  Tell him the hopes you have for your family and how much you would like to work things out for all of you.  But if doesn't think he could ever forgive you, then you need to move on for the sake of the children.

Answer 3

omg, next week? sign them up. he left you remember??? he needs to get over it. he's the one who left, so even if you go to court over this with a divorce coming, it's not like he'll get the kids. and, yeah, right, he didn't have s*x. i doubt that ALOT.  he'll get over it, he ob. just wants to argue about something.

Answer 4

Sign them up. Don't stop your life for this c**p and TRUST ME.... If he up and left... I am sure it wasn't for a good reason. Men don't just up and leave and live s*x free lives!!!!!! Regardless... You should have been the one to not take him back for completely abandoning you and the children.

Do what is right and healthy for the children and yourself.This back and forth stuff is not healthy for you or the kids!