How much trust do you have?

Question

How much do you trust your husband or boyfriend who has a lot of female friends? He tells you nothing is going on with him and these other female "friends" who are attractive by the way. Guys how much do you trust your girlfriend or wife who has a lot of guy friends that spends much time around her more than you do. She claims the same thing that they are just her friends and nothing is going on. I mean after all there is nothing going on between your lover and his or her friends right? even if they spend lots of time together at your place when you are not there sometimes. I mean there is absolutley nothing wrong with that right? Of course nothing is wrong because you trust his or her every word and they would never fool around with a friend. Even if they did kiss maybe just one time. Nothing is wrong with that because it was nothing serious and they are just friends, right? And you trust your lover 100%. And another thing all those friends are single and looking. Just friends right?

Answer 1

If you are having problems trusting someone, find someone else.  

I trust my husband 100% and trusts me 100%.  (Married 18 years.)

Without trust, there is no relationship.  

Answer 2

not always if your having suspicions look into like put a video recorder or somethin in your house when there alone.

and you can never trust them even if the person they hang out with is really ugly just dont acuse them of anything

Answer 3

SOMEBODY is pissed.  Yes we trust each other but we also live together since we're MARRIED.  You realize this is the Marriage & Divorce section?  My husband doesn't have chicks hanging around that he makes out with.  We're not dating.  

Answer 4

i've been cheated on way to much to be ok with a situation like that. there is the saying that it takes time to build trust, a long time but only suspicion to destroy it. you need to go with your gut feeling, but don't just ignore it either. sorry if that's not what you wanted to hear. but this is my opinion.

Answer 5

it isn't fair that he expects you to trust him to that extent, I think it's selfish. I never had a bunch of guy friends when I was dating and my husband doesn't have any female friends, neither did ANY of my previous boyfriends. I have one male friend now whom I'm trying to get rid of because he has made it clear that he wants more than friendship with me and I love my husband. I suggest you find another guy who will respect you more than that.  

Answer 6

depends on the kind of person ur partner is.

i never could trust my ex, but trust my current 99.9%. they both have female friends. as much as i would like to get rid of them, i just need to deal with it. don't think i'll appreciate it if my bf tells me that i cant hang around male friends =)

if ur partner is the kind of person my ex is, it would end eventually.

p.s. the ex can't seem to decide what he want. any gurl hit on him and he'd prbbly hv 2nd thoughts. yea, he did cheat on me esp after our r/ship b came long distance.

Answer 7

well i didnt trust my last man as far as i could throw him coz he cheated, i trust the one i have now, but it seems theres no limits these days, in my time married, engaged, courting men were out of bounds, now my mates go for anything, and thats sad,

Answer 8

This day and age, not much. Everyone is s******g everyone.  

Answer 9

Boy can I tell you are one upset lady, and in my opinion you have a right to be. Starting from the moment that the two of you made a commitment to each other and decided to just date one another, every friend of his and friend of yours is now both of your friends. That means that he doesn't see his female friends without you present, and you don't see your male friends without him around as well. You may see them at work, but once work is over, the two of you must be present whenever friends of the opposite s*x are around.  You mentioned him kissing one of them "once". I don't think so.....once a friendship crosses the line, it is not a friendship. Wake up, gather your self-respect and make darn sure your boyfriend/husband is being honest with you. Don't accuse him of anything without proof, but don't be stupid either. When and if the proof makes itself known, move on.  Until then, trust with all your heart and keep friends of the opposite s*x close so you don't have to worry.