How must I say goodbye?

Question

My older sister, who is 18 years of age, is cleaning out her closet and going off to university. For a long time now, we have not been at good relations yet i have a notion that we are at a more comfortable level when compared to my other family members. In the light of recent events,I want to do something to show her that I truly will miss her and am sorry for what has happened in the past. Can you, the reader, please provide suggestions as to what i can do?

Answer 1

First of all, it's not goodbye, it's just so long for a little while. Knowing how you feel, be sure that you stay in touch with your sister on a regular basis. If you have to initiate the phone calls, so be it. Send her cards on special days, especially her birthday.

(1) Put together a photo album full of photos of the two of you.

(2) Give her a piece of jewelry that she will wear daily & think of you always. ( pretty bracelet, ring, earrings, necklace)

(3) Buy her something for her college dorm room that she can use & will always think of you when she uses it.

(4) Buy her a nice journal so she can keep her thoughts in it. On the inside of the book, write a message that she can read when she opens the journal.

Answer 2

Wow, well you are just going to have a write a heartfelt letter that she will read on the way to university.

Write about how you've wanted to express this letter for a long time and you couldn't think of how to say it, but here goes.

Then write about how you're sorry for your part of what happened in the past (don't go into too much detail).

Then write about how you have come to appreciate her as a person, and that even though the family is dysfunctional, at least you're glad she is your sister.

Then thank her for the nice things that she did for you, or the nice person that she is (be specific) and tell her how much those things meant to you.

Then end on a positive note about how you wish her the best and that you'll miss her, and that she is inspiring you to get out as well.

You can do all sorts of nice sentimental things but writing the truth in a letter will clear the air and trust me, she will keep that letter for a long long time.