How not to become a bridezilla?

Question

I have read so many stories about them. My guess is that the brides didnt do it on purpose, but they were really too stress and a bit too perfectionist. I am having my wedding end of the year. Any tips on how to relax myself on my big day? I am the easily-stressed type. I think I am gonna freak out if anything doesnt go right. I don't wan to end up hurting everybody.

Answer 1

Just remember that things are going to probably go wrong, or something might go wrong. Just remember that you can only plan what you can plan and that the unexpected is just that. And no matter what happens, you are still marrying and becoming one with the one you love... which is the most important thing right? Take time to breathe and listen to others opinions (even if you don't take them). If you don't want to be a bridezilla, don't become one. Don't worry. And congrats on the wedding!

Answer 2

just remember that when things go wrong they are only obstacles. things only go wrong when you try to make everything perfect. Just relax and focus on the most important thing and that is getting married. I'm getting married in 6 weeks and I don't care what goes wrong I'm still going to keep going. Don't stress. Try to have fun.  

Answer 3

Don't listen to all the  multi squillion dollar  bridal industry  propoganda about what makes up the "perfect" wedding.  If you don't want to walk down  the aisle in a  pouffy white strapless dress or  have 25 bridesmaids then thats absolutely fine.

Keep your sense of humour  firmly in place.

Have a backup plan

Get EVERYTHING in writing

Realise that  you will be dealing with human beings,  that are  unfortunately not  perfect, and as a result  may not get it right all the time.

Don't sweat the small stuff, 10 years from now no one is going to remember or care that your bridesmaids didn't all have the same hairstyles or that the table napkins at the reception were ivory not white. All they will remember is how happy  you and your HTB looked.

Have fun planning your wedding :)

Answer 4

Be relaxed, be flexible, think about others, and keep in mind that the wedding isn't all about you i.e. instead of "MY wedding" think "OUR wedding." That's the best way to avoid being a bridezilla. It's worked for me =]

Answer 5

Yes there are bridezillas and there are people who will potentially drive you crazy so avoid them.  Anyone who feels the need to compete with you, be negative about your particular vision for the day or are just irresponsible in keeping up with their duties of being in the bridal party.  So be careful in who you choose to help plan your wedding.  Secondly, give yourself a realistic time frame to plan everything.  The more you procrastinate, the worse your stress level will become.  Also be sure to research potential vendors (some are able to sell themselves well but have bad reputations) and what you can realistically do with your budget.  

Answer 6

I'm the same way.

You have to accept the fact that not everything is going to be perfect. No matter how much you have planned and envisioned everything, there will be something, (probably not big), that does not turn out the way that you expected.

Be able to be creative on the spot, in case something may go wrong, it's how you recover that is important. That's why it's always good to have a plan B, so if plan A doesn't go, it's okay. That way, you are not stressed and become a bridezilla.

Answer 7

i was told to think back on weddings that i had attended.  not one of them went off without a hitch of some sort.  it will always be a great thing to reminisce about later in life, like when my cousin went crashing through our sliding glass door(she only has to have 8 stitches).

Answer 8

I would say that you have to put yourself in the state that something is going to go wrong, so when it happens your already ready for it. That way you aren't as stressed as you would of been. Also, I would say that you should try to not think everything is going to be perfect, because it won't be. It's all part of the experience of having a wedding. Plus, if any of your friends have a wedding in the future, then you'll know what to look out for.

Answer 9

Relax

take it as it comes

be nice to everyone

don't be overly demanding

don't expect the world to revolve around you

its yours and his day, not just yours

they are friends and family, not slaves

keep hurtful comments to yourself

your wedding is not a competition