How often did you think about your girlfriend/boyfriend or wife/husband when you were deployed?

Question

Soldiers, when you were deployed how often did you think about your significant other? How often did you communicate with them? How did you make missing them easier on your end? What is the best thing we can do on our end to make you feel more "at home" or at least less lonely when you are at war?

Answer 1

I am not a soldier but a military wife, everyone is being so negative... I thought I would give some positive insight.

If it makes you feel better I know more women that cheat on their husbands while they are deployed than men! Usually they are so busy with work and missions that they don't have the time.Sometimes it happens, but they have so much going on I doubt it is that often. I know that when my husband was deployed we got a letter twice a month. We talked on the phone weekly or go on instant messenger weekly. At some points daily! I sent tons of pictures, favorite foods, special things that were only special to us, and I wrote him a nightly letter. It told of our daily events. He said that was the best to get his weekly box and open it up and smell me! ( I spared perfume on my letters) It helped fill huge gaps and made him feel part of our daily lives. Although he felt sad he never felt left out. They guys teased him about reading his novels, but it was the best to him. They are going to miss you just as much as you miss them. Communicate, trust, and love one another. I wore a button with his picture on it when he was gone. He said that when he got pictures and saw that the boys and I were wearing them it made him smile. It showed him we were proud of him and supported him. But he said it also made him feel better to know while we were out about he was there to be sure no one messed with us (like some dirt bag hitting on me, lol). There are lots of ways to comfort them while they are gone. If you truly love each other cheating wont even be a problem. Being seperated from one another can really strengthen and bring you closer together in other ways! I am sure you two will be fine. Cheer up!

Answer 2

Doesn't matter what you do sweetie, they'll cheat anyway. My ex boyfriend was too busy with other women to think about me. They just want someone to control when they get home.

Answer 3

I was really fortunate to have dated one that did not cheat on me the whole time he was in the military.  But we did not stay together because of personal differences.  However I thought about him almost everyday while he was underway for months.  We kept things alive by writing each other, emails, and of course myspace etc.  I'll have to agree that absense does makes the heart fonder.  I've always been really independent and he also plays a big part in me not worrying about him as much.  He gave me the confidence and sense of security and I gave him my trust and reassurance that I will be home waiting for him.  I also work full time as a chemist and goes to school full time as well.  I think that helped me a lot too.  

  Everything will turn out fine trust me.  If this guy or gal is the person for you, it'll work out.  If not move on.  I never trusted military men at all until I met him.  But unfortunately after he left the navy, he had different goals in life so we split ways...