How often should i write him while hes in boot camp?

Question

hes my brothers best friend, and we have had a crush on eachother our whole life pretty much.

so hes leaving for boot camp in a week, and im wondering how often should i write him? were not dating or anything, but i still want to write him all the time. everyday? every other day? few times a week?

also, here are some more questions i am wondering:

-are the letters private?

-where will he keep them? or does he throw them away?

-when should i start writing him?

-how soon after he leaves will i get my first letter from him?

-does the DI keep the letters or something?

any information is extremely appreciated thankyou soo much

Answer 1

you can write him as much as you want.  They get mail regularly.  He keeps in his drawer and if he wants to share them he can if he so pleases.  No the DI doesn't look at mail.  

Answer 2

I couldn't Agree with the above post more. As often as possible, about routine things, don't try and devolp more than what is there, but keep him updated about stuff going on. Mail Call is the best part of boot camp and take it from someone who has been through it not having mail sucks.

Answer 3

Maybe once a week, yes they are private, he can keep them if he wants to but might find it easier not to, send them right away, he might be able to write within a few days or a week or so, no the DI does not keep the letter.  Don't send anything like food, in fact I would suggest JUST sending letters.

Answer 4

Write as much as you want. Just don't get upset when they don't write as often. They are training, and the little free time they have, isn't much. A lot of the guys will prolly write their mom's or dad's first. I'm going thru all this right now. My bf just left for basic. I won't even get the first phone call, his dad will. So I gotta wait for that first letter, whichi I prolly won't get till next month. Just show your support for them! It will keep them going! They have a lot on their minds. They may not get to write back much, but getting mail everyday as I hear makes them happy. And don't send cards or anything that will stand out in mail call, the DL will notice and your guy will get in trouble and pointed out for it.

Answer 5

writing once a week would be great,not everyday, if he's going to bootcamp,he need a little time for himself to think and clear his head. The guys need some space.

Answer 6

The 1st 3 weeks he can not do much about reading your notes or writing you back but later that he will see the notes you sent and can wright you back. It would help him you send him the things he will use to send you notes as well as stamps.

Answer 7

When he gets to boot camp he will be disoriented and may feel like he has made a mistake. Letters from home are a vital part of maintaining a sense of purpose and stability especially during the first couple of weeks. When I was in boot camp, it was a huge disappointment to not be called out during mail call each day. A couple of things to make things easy on him and you: 1) Just normal letters about normal everyday things are best, wait until he gets home to try discussing things deeply; 2) Don't send him anything but letters, they will confiscate everything else and it will single him out; 3) Understand that he will have time to maybe only write one letter a week, don't be offended if he writes to his mom instead of you. By all means write him though. If you write and then go to his graduation it will mean more to him than you may even realize.