How often should we be having intercoarse in order to concieve

Question

I am 27 years old and my fiance is 29, we have been trying to concieve for almost a year now, we typically have s*x once a month and just recently we decided to do it about 3 days before my most fertile day (according to my ovulation calculator). Since my period is so on point every 30 days I can tell when I am goin to ovulate just from my body, my mensies r usually very crampy the first 3 days, heavy for 5 days and lessens for the rest of the week and has been exactly like that my whole life. This is why I feel it has to be done around a certain time to concieve. I also feel we should be having intercoarse mabey more than once a month but he is so convinced he has got to store up. It actually becoming a little frustrating to me cause now its like when we do it, it feels like its because that's what we supposed to do to concieve and that's it.

Answer 1

its best to do bd every other day

Answer 2

once a month??  i would definitly suggest to you that you make love at least every other day, if this is more difficult then theres no pressure to make love on your period or perhaps a week leading to it. get an ovulation monitor, you can buy them cheaper on ebay.

you may be surprised to discover you actually ovulate on a completely different day to you expected.

both of you should also eat healthly, exersise and take a vitimin supplement and omega 3.

theres no need for him to 'store up' sperm is produced approximately every 3 months they spend the rest of the time maturing. in 1 tb spoon theres millions of sperm and it only takes one to concieve a baby.

are you sure he's not just having cold feet about having a baby

why not get married first as your already engaged.

Answer 3

I would def. have s*x more than once a month. My OB told me to start having s*x at least 3 days before I know I am going to Ovulate, and of course on the day I am going to ovulate. If your fiance is worried he may have a low sperm count (that would be the only reason he'd need that long to build up) you could try having s*x every other day leading up to the day you ovulate that would give him a chance to build up by taking a day off.. However, with my first son we concieved him the first month trying and he was a honey moon baby so we were having s*x a lot. But everybody's different. Good Luck to you!

Answer 4

Having s*x just once a month really limits the possibility of conceiving. Even though you only ovulate one day a month, it's highly possible to conceive the two days before, the day of ovulation and two days after. Sperm can stay alive inside the body for several days, so there's that too.

There's no reason to 'store up' sperm. It dies inside the body and is eliminated from the body as a waste product after a few days if it's not used. The body is constantly making new sperm, so the more you 'empty the tank' so to speak, the healthier and fresher the sperm will be.

Answer 5

hmm, okay, well I think the once a month only s*x is an issue here.

Were you at least once a monthing on a Peak or fertile day?

You do NOT need a whole month to store up.  Lack of enough s*x can damage sperm's morphology.  

Buy some OPKs..once you see your fertile mucus begin s*x then, do it every other day till you see your Peak day and baby dance on the Peak day for sure!

Answer 6

While he's right that abstenance will help build a supply, but after 5 days, it doesn't do any good.

If you don't want to educate your self on the subject (like reading the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility") or if you don't want to track your fertility with BBT, CM, and CP records, then you should do the baby dance every two to three days from the end of your period until you KNOW your past ovulation.  Skipping one or two days is more than enough to keep up your man's supply.

Answer 7

i was successful having s*x 7 days before ovulation, the day of ovulation and then a day after ovulation. Rem all u need is 1, so the more s*x the higher ur chances are .

Answer 8

Him only "releasing" once a month isn't good for sperm either. If he has a normal sperm count its fine to have s*x everyday. If he has a low sperm count then its fine to do it every other day.