How old do you think is the suitable age to be a mum.

Question

me and my boyfriend said:-

18 for our 1st

is that a suitable age. At 18 your classed as a adult

Answer 1

It depends on the person. I know many adults who are less responsible than average teenagers, and many teenagers who are more responsible than average adults.  What matters is that you and your family are emotionally and physically prepared for a baby. Good Luck!

Answer 2

it doesnt matter if you're classified as an adult.. you have to mature enough, having a baby is a great responsibility.  i had my son when i was 19.

Answer 3

well i would get married first... then when your financial stuff is good and you and your husvand are in a good relationship like no problems, and u are both willing for a child, yeah.

i would say in 20's or maybe early thirty's...

if you have any problems (miscarrige) or just not getting pregnant easily then dont bother going past your 30's

Answer 4

I was a couple of days from 20 when my son was born and it was definitely too young. A few friends of mine had their firsts that young too and now would rather have waited a little longer. Leave it till 22/23  

Answer 5

There is no suitable age. You have to be ready mentally,emotionally,and physically. You have to be able to care for the baby and meet all its needs. One of you or both you need a decent job.  You both need to make sure that you really want to be together and that you love eavh other enough for s*x to be special. You need to go to college so you can get the education needed to get a good job. You need a suitable place to live too. I recommend after college. Don't do it when you are a teenager.

Answer 6

Your age doesn't matter as much as where you are in life. Obviously, 18 would be the minimum, because your done school at that point. But if an 18 year old has a stable job and a house, and is in a stable relationship, then it seems they are in a good place. However, most 18 year olds do not own a home, and do not have high paying jobs, because they are undereducated. It is much easier to have a baby when you are older. I am 18 however, my fiancé is 19, and is an electrician. I am in university. we are pregnant with our first. this baby was a surprise, az I was told by my doctors, the chances of me conceiving were very low. we are also raisin my 11 year old sister. We own our house. It isn't easy. If we could have waited we would have, however God had other plans for us. That's not to say that a 30 year old is anymore ready to parent. It really depends on where you are in your life. My mum had be when she was 17. I lived with her until I was 16, then I moved out. She had my sister at 24. She lost custody of that child to an 18 year old (myself) even though she was older. You see, once you are an adult, age is just a number. What you are 'ready' for, is more dependant on your accomplishments, rather than that number. Good luck

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Answer 7

do u now how hared to have a chiled it not easy u have got to wake up in the middle of the noght with feeding and they have to be fresh not ready made

i was 18 when i lost my 1st and i lost another at 19 both boys and i was 15 weeks and i had my scans so when some 1 told me ur abay is dead it riped me and my partner apare but not from each other thank god

im 22 and have 3 loveing kids and eventhough to r disabeled with club foot there all my life is worth and i work the girls r 1 2 and 3 and verry time consumeming so if i was u i would do what i wont in life go abrode and enjoy yourself then when u have seen the world live life there is more to life then babies and when u r mrred and have a house of ur own thing long and hared is a baby what u realy wont good luck with u choous and good bye  now

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Answer 8

After college, whatever age that might be.  As long as you are "planning" then you should plan on having a good job with a steady income.  For the majority of people, that will not be the exact day you graduate high school.  

Answer 9

I had my first when I was 19, my second at 21 & my 3rd at 23! I do not regret any one of them, though I do think that I was much more able, mentally to cope with a new born baby the older I got. I would even go as far as to say that if I could have all 3 of my kids exactly as they are, yet with me being in my mid twenties at the time of my first pregnancy, I would have, in hind sight opted for this option. If you & your partner are in a solid relationship that you feel will last, as you must be if you are already considering a baby, my advice to the both of you would be to wait for as long as you can. good luck. xx

Answer 10

I don't think it matters if you're young or old, as long as you have the money, stability and maturity to support the child. Good luck.

Answer 11

im 17 with my frist (unplanned) because im under the age of 18 im classed as a teen mum and i asked my midwife what age isnt classed as a teen mum and she said 19 i dont no why an year is differnt x

Answer 12

18 is not a suitable age.  You may think that now, but things change.  Do you know how much you can do and live after you graduate high school?  I had my BEST years after high school.  With a baby, you won't have that time to do what you want.  Just because 18 is considered an "adult" in the legal sense, you are still a teen until you turn 20.  So teenagers, in my opinion and I'm sure of the majority of the population of the world, SHOULD NOT have babies.

Answer 13

no 18 is not old enough.

i had my daughter when i was 18 (unplanned) and at this age although you are classed as an adult your mind isn't.

your boyfriend and you are misguided in your desision.

to be ready for a baby you should

have your own house

financial stability

be in a long term loving commited relationship pref 5+ years)

having a child is a big thing and i dont think that when you are a teenager you are mature enough to understand the hardwork thats involved, infact girls who can admit their not ready are more mature than those who want a baby.

you need to live your life first, at 18 you should be going on holiday,clubbing,having lye ins at the weekend. Not cleaning up poo and sick and having to get up 50 times a night to tend to a screaming baby.

when i had my daughter as much as i loved her, i was dead jelous of other girls who had flat tummies and nice cars.

my partner and i have been together 7 years we're 21 now and yet we have the lives of people in their mid 30's.

Answer 14

I think 18 is a good age if you are ready.

Me and my fiance are waiting until I am at least 25 years old, we want to be financially stable with a good quality of life before we bring a child into our lives. We both come from "deprived" families and I don't want the same for my child/children.  

Answer 15

i don't think there is a right age to become a parent it is really down to the couple and if they feel ready to settle down. it will be hard work and you would have to be ready to commit no matter what age  

Answer 16

There is no right or wrong age...it depends on the individual.  I know some fantastic mums who were only 17/18 when they had their 1st baby.  I think that you need to take everything into consideration first though.

Personally, I waited until I had done a bit of living first, got the whole clubbing and going on foreign holidays out of the way and then we decided to settle down and have a family.  I find that I don't wish I could still do all that stuff now that I have kids, as they say been there done that.  If you and your partner are happy to try for a baby when you are 18 then go for it, but do take into consideration that babies are expensive and you should have a means of being able to support yourselves and not depending on benefits.

Good luck  

Answer 17

I had my 1st baby when I was 18 and I had my 2nd baby when I was 26! Big gap and if I'm perfectly honest I coped so much better with my 2nd baby, maybe that was because it was my 2nd I'm not too sure!?  But my feelings and the way I handled things was completely different when I was older.  There isn't anything wrong with having a baby at 18 but your life changes so dramatically very quickly (even though you know it's coming) and you need to be sure that your relationship is very very strong because although a baby is an amazing thing for you together it will also test your relationship greatly.

I would say wait until your older but that's just my opinion because I found it a lot more enjoyable and perhaps that's also got to do with people not looking down on me!! Its a sad fact that so many people look down on young mums :(  

Answer 18

theres not really a so called suitable age. a woman who wants a baby and is able to look after and commit and be loyal to all their life can be a good mum, so age doesn't come into it - (however, I do feel as the new mum in their 40's+ arn't doing anything for their children! they're going to tire out quicker, and not be able to relate to their children as well due to the bigger age difference)

i've just turned 19, and am in a good relationship with a guy a couple of years older We both have decent paying full time jobs, our own place, and families who have always been happy to help us out. so I would consider my age being suitable, but we're in no rush. We just like to take life as it comes. we, also, like you two love talking about when we could have a child, or when we'll get married, or when we should get a job, but the way we really see it is that you can chose all these dates and ages, but then again in reality, as you get older priorities change. You may want a child earlier, or you may want to get married first.

Have fun planning these things, and I hope all works out well.

Answer 19

of course an 18 yr old can be mature enough to be a parent, but to actually plan to start a family at that age seems a little strange. Why rush into family life? there is plenty of time for babies and all that stuff. Just take a few more years to enjoy being a teenager  

Answer 20

It really depends on the person, but I recommend waiting until you are 22 so that you can have a year or more of partying and fun before settling down. Many (but not all! I do know some good young parents) young parents that I know party with kids, and as a teacher I see the negative effects on their children.

You and your boy should enjoy being young before you have your first one. If you do that, you'll be happier with your decision and you will also have a more solid relationship.

Answer 21

If you can support the baby(doctors visits, clothes,food, play toys,,visits to the zoo, car seats, etc.) then any age after 18 should be fine.

Answer 22

I think that two people should be married two or three years before they decide to have a baby. This way they can enjoy each other and spend alone time together before they add an addition the family. No I don't think 18 is a suitable age. You go experience life before you get married and have a baby.

Answer 23

I say 22, this way you are legally an adult, and hopefully financially capable of taking care of a child.  There are lots of great young moms, but it's more of a struggle when you are younger.

If you wait until 22, you have had a year to be crazy after being legally able to drink, you've had your fun times as a youth, and hopefully a really great paying job, because babies are extremely expensive.  I'd say wait and live a little.

I'm 24 and I wish I'd waited another year to be a mom.

Answer 24

its not about being classed as an adult - i don't think there is a magic age at which women are perfectly suited to becoming mothers (you could be 30 and completely immature - that'd do baby no good).

you're ready when you're in a loving committed relationship, are financially secure, emotionally secure and are mature enough to handle the responsibility of having a child to deal with pretty much 24/7

Answer 25

Legal age is not something to base your ability to be a parent on. I have met immature 18 year olds and very mature 18 year olds. Personally I do not think anyone under 18 needs to be having children. Make sure you can both emotionally and financially support a child before having one. Once you have a child your life changes permanently, no more going out on a whim, no more buying whatever you want at any moment. The baby's needs come first. I would strongly suggest waiting a few years past 18, before even considering it.

Answer 26

Age has nothing to do with being ready for parenthood.  14 year olds have kids everyday and some are wonderful, nurturing parents and others are way to immature and selfish.  The same goes with 40 year olds though.  Being a parent is about letting someone else's needs outweigh yours, along with all the responsibility and financial struggles that come along with parenthood.

Answer 27

To me and many others, the suitable age is whenever you are married. If that's at 18, fine. As long as you love each other and are married, it's fine. Otherwise you should keep your legs shut, IMO.

Answer 28

I think this really depends on the person.. some of my friends have had babies and they are only 20.. and some of them are wishing they had waited because they want to go to uni, get a better job etc.. saying that some are completely happy.. but still say they would love to do the things they cant..

What you have to ask yourself is having babies all you want to do? Cos believe me once you have had one you wont be able to travel.. go to university.. so may never get your dream job or tyou may even break up with your partner..

Ive been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years.. im 20 and hes 26.. im half way through uni tho so i want to finish my studies, get a job i enjoy, travel a bit and live with my partner for at least 5 years before having a baby so I know its going to be a good environment to bring a child into..

I hope this helps x

Answer 29

age has nutin to do wit it..

u can b an immature 30 yr old or a very grown-up mature 19 yr old

just make sure that u plan well and b financially prepared! and enjoy life first as a couple cos kids change the relationship..

gud luck

Answer 30

There's no solid line in the sand with this answer.  It's the person, not the age.  There are young adults out there with their minds straight and their priorties in line.  There's also plenty of older ones who never shoud've been parents.

Answer 31

I personally don't think there is a suitable age. I was married 7 years before having a baby. It is just whenever both parents are able to financially care for a child. I also think that the parents need to be mature enough to have a child. There is too much teenage pregnancy. As far as 18? I myself think that is a little young. That is just my opinion.Good luck!