How old is to old to be smacked?

Question

One of my younger sisters is 11 nearly 12, and from time to time my parents smack her (or spank her as they say in the US). Me and all my older siblings we smacked up until this age, some of us a little older, but to be honest I think she's to old. I don't think it is wrong to smack children when the are naughty, as long as it's not done in anger and you don't smack the stupidly hard (my parents do nethier of these things.) Do you think my sisters is too old?

PLEASE DON'T TELL ME THAT YOU THINK IT IS ABUSE, COS I DON'T WANNA KNOW. AND I DON'T THINK IT IS!

Answer 1

i think they should stop at 7 or 8

Answer 2

Ok no judgement on smacking but i do feel she is too old for this.  Eleven almost twelve is old enough to be told what she is doing is wrong and be punished by another means.  sometimes i think the pain of a parents disapointment can hurt alot more than a 'spank'.

Answer 3

Though you asked me not to do this, I feel compelled to tell you that it is not morally or ethically right to "smack" a child (strange that we cannot call it what it is: physically striking your own children). I would never, ever strike my children. It is also illegal in many countries. Why would it be all right ever to "smack" younger children who understand even less than older ones why the very people who are supposed to love, cherish, nurture and protect them (parents) would intentionally hurt them?

Answer 4

you are to old to get smacked once you dont live in your parents house and they are not responsble for you!!

Once you move out..

Answer 5

well when you say smack i'm thinking they smack her in the feace or something. that is abuse. but if your talking about getting a spanking then she is not to old i got them well up to 15 and i needed every last one of them  

Answer 6

I would say up to the age of 8 personally, so yes i would say she is too old for this.

But it is not her physical age but her mental age too, if she still does not understand right and wrong etc however i would of thought she is of the age where she understand such things.

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Answer 7

i THINK ITS UP TO YOUR PARENTS AND WHAT THEY WANNA DO PARENTS ALWAYS KNOW BEST... ABUSE IS A LITTLE MORE THAN A SMACK ANY WAY IF YOU ASK ME

Answer 8

11 is too old for a child to be smacked.  Smacking should only be a last resort, when the child is either doing something that is VERY bad or is dangerous. Once a child is at an age where reasoning/consequences can be fully understood, there is no real need to smack.  Other punishments are more effective (witholding pocket money/turning off tv or computer)

Answer 9

Its not abuse ,No matter what age you are until 18 you should be allow to be spanked if you deserve  it . If she was 12 my parents would of used a belt.  

Answer 10

No, she's not to old. Every child is different, I have an 11 year old, who hasn't been spanked since the age of 10 but knows it can happen if she crosses that line. I'd say once a child enters their teen years, that's a bit to old for spanking. However I still never say never.

Answer 11

ok first off its not Illegal to spank your children and is not abuse. Parents can spank children as long as they feel it appropriate.  

Answer 12

I haven't been spanked since probably before I was 10.

It's not abuse.  

Answer 13

I got smacked until i was about 11-12ish.

It did me absolutly no harm at all. Put me in my place when i was playing up. I completly agree with smacking kids on the bum, and i will do with my own kids. I dont hate my parents for it one bit, nor do i think they shouldnt have done it. Im white, and live in the UK and 23yrs old now.  

Answer 14

10 - 30 seconds after birth.

Answer 15

If you dont WANNA know then you probably shouldn't ask the question.

Answer 16

Your right. it is not abuse. if your sister gets smacked she probably deserves it if they are misbehaving. I am your sisters age and my parent don't smack me anymore cuz kids our age think: "Oh. o well it's only gonna hurt for a second and then it will be over and I can do (the thing she was doing) again. It's better to ground kids my age. (No TV computer, video games ect for a week) because it gives us plenty of time to think about what we've done and I your sister really likes watching tv and stuff, chances are she won't do it again.  

Answer 17

It's abuse, but it's normal when you're in an asian family. My parents sometimes spank me on the butt when I'm doing something REALLY bad. I don't think it's wrong or unfair because it teaches me a lesson and I know the consequences next time. The only good thing I like about it is that I don't get grounded, ever.  

Answer 18

I was until I was like 7 but only a few times at that. I was always scared to say something rude in case it happened to me again. I saw my friend get spanked when she was like 8 or 9 and I thought thank god that wasn't me cuz it's embarrassing when u are older. It seems that in the States ppl get spanked until their early teens tho. I think it just depends on the parents. It also, as others have said, depends on the mental age of the kid,