How old is too old for a little girl to be showering with her father.?

Question

I babysit for someone where I think she is too old to be showering with her dad. I think when she gets older she is going to have vivid enough memories to be embarrassed about it.

Answer 1

Age 2 max. You gotta tell her that she is a big girl and now and that she should start learning to shower by herself.

Answer 2

You're never too old to shower with your daddy... it's a time honored tradition of, oh, wait... no... that doesn't make any sense at all.  No need, no reason... showers are a solo thing.

Answer 3

o_0 ... I never showered with my father

Answer 4

I think over age 4.

Answer 5

If she's old enough to take a shower she's too old to shower with her dad.

Answer 6

I don't think any age is okay. The dad shouldn't be getting nude in the shower with his daughter.

Answer 7

I would think it's a bit odd. Do you KNOW she is? Have you mentioned it to her mom? That's where I would go with it. Was it a one time thing? I think anything over 2 would for sure be too old, and I wouldn't think it would necessary.

If he doesn't want to leave her unattended while he's in the shower, and the mom's gone he can wear shorts in the shower so as not to expose her to more than necessary.

While there are families/cultures that have a more open minded to nudity, I do think that when one is alerted to a situation such as this it certainly is worth looking into.

Answer 8

I NEVER SHOWERED WITH MY DAD EVEN WHEN I WAS LITTLE BECAUSE IM A GIRL... MY BROTHER DID THOUGH WHEN HE WAS LITTLE.... BUT IF YOU DO THAN AT LEAST STOP WHEN THEY ARE ABLE TO WALK OR TALK AND UNDERSTAND SLIGHTLY...

Answer 9

Why shower with her at all? Sit beside the tub if she needs help. I don't think its appropriate for a child to see a parent of the opposite s*x naked unless they aren't walking or talking.

Answer 10

It depends on the family.  I would say 2-3 tops.  Most likely 2 or under.

Answer 11

I think that when a child realizes there is a difference in their bodies, it's time to stop. This usually happens when they are 3 or so. Unfortunately, it sounds like you're not in much of a position to say anything, unless you've known the family for a while. You could always try to drop some subtle hints, such as saying you don't mind getting her bathed. Maybe he is just doing it to save time, or because he's afraid you aren't able. I'm sorry, I wish I would've been more help but it sounds like your hands are kind of tied behind your back.

Answer 12

I think its a personal preference within the family.  I still allow my 3.5 year old son to shower with me if he wants to.  Its adults who sexualize this situation, not the child.  My son doesn't think anything of it. He shampoos, washes, rinses off and gets out.  I do the same.  Two people get clean at one time and we conserve water.  What's so inappropriate about that?  You never state the daughters age, so I'm not going to make any assumptions.  Generally speaking though, I'll guess that around school age children start voicing their need for privacy and independence in the bath.

A parent showering with their child is no cause for concern on its own.  If you notice other inappropriate situations though, then it is perfectly acceptable for you to mention those things to the spouse.  Its a VERY touchy situation though.  I wouldn't anticipate a positive reaction. If it makes you that uncomfortable, then consider no longer babysitting for that family.

*Why do you keep repeating the same part of your question over and over and over again?  lol  If this situation really bothers you, then you need to call both parents and ask them if you can meet with them privately.  Then simply voice your concern.  There's no easy way around it.  Just say, "I've noticed that you still shower with your daughter and I find it inappriopriate.  I'm concerned for her well being."  They'll either say, "You're right.  It won't happen anymore.  Thank you for bringing it to our attention."  Or they'll say, "You're a sick, twisted person.  How dare you make such accusations?  You're fired.  Get out."    Good luck with that.

Answer 13

I never once showered with my father.... my cousin and her husband had a little boy and he always showered with his dad, his mom rarely, they stopped when he was like 2.

Then they had a baby girl and she is about 2 years old right now, and agan she only showers with her mom, rarely her dad.

When your a little little baby its cute, like 2 and under. Anything older will probably be stored into their memory.

Answer 14

3 years old max.

Answer 15

The actual answer has nothing to do with nudity.  It has to do with co dependence.  In a health non sexual family relationship a father and daughter can be nude together on a beach.  So why sexualize the shower?  Devoid of the father being a pedophile it is entirely the family's business as to if tghey do it and how long they do it.  Devoid of s*x a 15 year old could shower with her father.  I see no reason for it.  But it really would not be a damaging thing at all.  And devoid of s*x it might indicate security and mental health.

Answer 16

If she is 5 or older, I would generally think that is too old.  I think the problem may be more yours, however. I'll bet you wouldn't have the same concerns if it was a son showering with his mother.

Many Americans are very uptight about nudity and make it something shameful (as evidenced by many of your posters). It isn't .  However, at 5, she is capable of taking a bath herself (usually) if he leaves the door open to supervise. I don't know of 5 year olds showering by themselves, so that could be an issue if he does not have a bath, but only a shower.

Answer 17

A girl should NEVER shower with her dad. I know this girl who used to and now all she wants is s*x

Answer 18

It's never appropriate for a child to shower with a parent of the opposite s*x, but you're just her babysitter, so I don't think you can do anything about it.

Sorry.

Answer 19

3 or 4

Answer 20

i'd think around 2 or less but i never showered with my father. i think its inapproprite and kinda weird

Answer 21

I think around the age of 2.

Answer 22

DAY 1!...I don't think they should be showering together at all.

Answer 23

Wait.... she showers with her dad in the showers with her father in the shower with her? NAKED? Yeah you should say something.