How old is too old to have a baby?

Question

Monday night my fiance said he has been thinking of having a baby with me. I think we are too old. He will be 45 the beginning of September and I will be 47 the beginning of December. I would love to try to have one, especially with him, but the age thing is on my mind.

Answer 1

50 is too old!!!!!!!!!! ergh

hey i wasnt being mean im trying to say hurry up and pop them out before you hit 50 .. good luck x

Answer 2

My father is 53 with a 6 year old. And he is a great dad! well of course I think so, Im a daddys girl, but he's great with my little brother, he was always taking him outside..free fun. The good ol parks and things like that. As long as you feel young and can give them a great life, who cares what the age is?

Dont let a bunch of people on here that you dont even know stop you from fullfilling your life. It's your life! And I think if you want to be a mommy, then GO FOR IT!..SOON! :)

Answer 3

30 is considered risky. But somewhere, an old lady in her 70's has given birth. The baby is healthy and normal. You still can be pregnant but always visit the doctor.  

Answer 4

If you both want to try then do it! Dont waste time pondering the idea- You arent getting any younger...

Answer 5

If you are able to conceive without a problem then go for it. Age doesn't make a difference. Of course anyone over the age of 35+ have a greater risk of complications. I would consult your doctor before trying to conceive. A womans body is very unique. Women have babies late in their forties and some in early fifties. Good luck!!

Answer 6

I personally think 45 is fairly old to be having a child.. It is only two years younger than my father. I have two kids ( I am 28) I do not mean at all to hurt your feelings.

Although you may be healthy and all, you will be 64 when you child graduates highschool. Of course it is always a personal choice, but there are also higher risks of pregnancy complications at your age as well. I would talk it over with your doctor, and get his professional opinions as well.

Answer 7

Well the risks are higher but the doctors do look after you well. My mum had a baby at 42 and a lady i know is pregnant now aged 50, i think if your fit healthy and have lots of love to give and are willing to give up your time then why not?  x*x

Answer 8

Ya, you're definately too old. Just think when your kid is 18 you'll be 60. And that means you'll be paying for college instead of retiring. Also that means because of the severe age gap you and your kid will not have a good relationship probably untill they are in thier mid 20s. And by then you might be dead.  

Answer 9

If you want a baby, then you need to do it now.  You want to be around for them for a long time and able to be and active part of their life.   You will be 65 when your baby graduates high school and 69 or 70 when they graduate college.  So most likely you won't really get to enjoy your grandchildren much...just something to think about.

Answer 10

you're on the verge of being too old but if you want one why not? you're obviously in a stable relationship and your mature enough. there was a 55 year old woman from india that just gave birth to quadruplets!! that is a bit extreme though but proves it can be done.

there's always the possibility of fostering/adopting if you feel you're too old.  

Answer 11

Well my mom had me at 45 I am 30 now and she is still alive.She was like any other mom probably better. So I don't see a problem or a difference in age. Don't think your too old to have a child.If your up to it and ready go for it.Best wishes  Oh and by the way she has 3 grandchildren by me she enjoys very much. And other grandkids by my siblings.

Answer 12

I can't give a defnitive age but I will tell you that having a baby later in life can result in some birth defects (that's what amniocentesis is all about). I think you should be prepared to give as much as you would have when you were younger and think about how your body will be treating you in the next 10 to 20 years. I personally wouldn't have one past my 30s but discuss it w/your obgyn if you have your heart set on it.

Answer 13

I turned 40 February 28th, delivered my first child March 21st.  I had a wonderful pregnancy and delivery.  I have a wonderfully healthy baby boy.  I think you should talk to your doctor and discuss your health with him/her.  

Start taking prenatal vitamins now, it won't hurt you if you decide not to get pregnant, my doctor told me we could never have too much folic acid in our system.

I think that my husband and I will try again in a few years for a second.  Base the decision on how you feel.

Good luck!

Answer 14

I think life is too short to miss out on the experience of having a child.  It's great!  I have a six week old and never even wanted kids before.  I wouldn't change it for the world now that I have him!  It's the best and most important thing I've ever done!  Good luck to you both if you decide to go for it!

Answer 15

First of all, I am 40 and would like to have a second child. It is intolerant morons like Jem and Michelle who would shame loving, kind people who would give their children a nurturing home just because we are slightly older. Who died and made you guys God?

I say, my mother was 36 when she adopted me and was 74 when she passed away.(my dad was 34) If you are financially sound and in good health and you can give a baby a good home then why not?

to Jem and Michelle: I just want to point something out to the both of you, my next door neighboor growing up died tragically of cancer at age 35, leaving behind 3 kids. We all have to die sometime.

Get a grip girls, your both too judgmental.

Answer 16

Would this be your first child? Do you have family close to you?

Age is a big factor to think about. When your child turns 18, you'll be 65. Having a child is a big deal and something I think no one should miss out on.

When I'm 47 my oldest will be 24 and my youngest will be 19.

You have to deciede what's okay. If you have family around to support and help it's a plus.

Good luck!

Answer 17

I think over 35 is too old because that's when it poses the most risk. You guys are definitely too old. No offense, but think about the child.

Answer 18

Unfortunately, I am afraid you will encounter many people like Gem and Michelle.

In some countries, it is common for women to be having a baby in their forties. Of course, the risk of having problems during pregnancy increases after the age of 35. But nowadays, many women are having their first child around that age, and even a few years after.

So, speak with your doctor and he or she will be better able to advice you.

I do not think you are too old and if your body can handle it then go for it!

Don't let those ignorant people talk you out of this amazing experience. Good luck!

Answer 19

Tough question only you can really answer.  I will be 39 next month and I just had my first. He's 3 1/2 months old.  My husband is 46.  We wouldn't change a thing.  Our little guy is happy and healthy.  And we're no worse for the wear.  You just have to be completely prepared (HA!  Is anyone ever really prepared for a baby?).  Get informed.  Read.  Talk to your obgyn about risks, etc.  It's not easy, but for us he is so worth it.  He is completely healthy.  As for how old, you'll be when he's...whatever.  (You can do that all day long.)   You and your fiance have to be sure that you're on the same page about how you want to raise him/her.  Whatever you decide...Good luck!