How old is too old to have a first child as a women? How old is too old to have a first child as a man?

Question

Now this question is souly based on your opinion, that's what am looking for. In your opinion is the age limit of bearing or having your first child different between men and women. Ignore the health issues I am asking simply for your opinion on what you believe is too old, and please state reasons for such belief. You will be contributing to a great thing (a college paper I have due (-:). One of my requirements is to pool opinions on my chosen subject (above), from different walks of life. I assumed the Internet was a terrific opportunity for that. Also if it's not too much trouble, could you please include your s*x and age. Thank you so much, a best answer will be chosen once I have 10 answers.

Answer 1

35-40 years old

Answer 2

I had my son almost 3 weeks ago. I think a woman should have had her first child by about 25. Too old for a first child. id say probably about 30! Because by the time they are 20 you are already 50! You become too old/tired to enjoy time with them. The best age for a woman to have her first child i think is betwen 18 and 25. The earlier you have a child (not that i think having a child under the age of 18 is the smartest idea) the more chance you will get to see grand children and maybe even great grand children!

For a man i would say too old is probably about 45, i think men have it easier becuase we are not so critical of how old a man is for his first child.  

Answer 3

As a 1st child, I think any woman who waits until after 35 or so, should just hang it up. My reasoning for this is, by the time that child graduates high school, he/she will be 18. So, add 18 yrs. to mom's life. (35+18=53!) By the time starts dating or hits puberty or anything "momumental" in a teenagers life, let's face it, mom's gonna be old.

I had my 1st @ 18. (Not saying that was the "brightest" decision.) But, I'm now 27, & pregnant w/ my 3rd. (I also have a 2 yr. old.) My son is 8. I feel as though I can relate better w/ with him, as opposed to being an older mom. So, by the time he graduates high school, I'll only be 36. I'll be able to understand what he'll be going thru when he hits his teenage years.

As for a male, unfortunately, there doesn't seem to be any real "age limit" on guys. As long as they can "get it up", they're good to go.

Answer 4

Men and women should be able to have children as long as they are physically able, and FINANCIALLY able to take care of them.

Young mothers have the first part down, but unfortunately not usually the second part!

I'm 30 and a first time mother......I have a college education and some wisdom behind me.  At 18, I was just a child.  I was still immature at 25.....but of course, when one is 18 or 25, one thinks she knows it all.

Answer 5

I would say 30 should be the oldest that a woman should have kids, and 35 for a man.

Any later than that and you'll be too old to enjoy life once the kids are out of the house.

Answer 6

I believe it varies greatly based on health and lifestyle choices.

Once both parties (potential mother and father) have settled to a comfortable lifestyle would be optimal, but many men and women won't settle down tell they are way past child bearing ages.

Men: Generally can be older. I'd say the 50-55 should be the absolute maximum. The reason being is they don't have the risk of childbirth and harming the child. As long as they will be able to rear the child in a normal manner and be alive for their childhood. Being able to provide after retirement is also a necessary factor.

Women: As women get older, they become more and more likely to injure themselves or the baby during childbirth. I'd say 45 would be the maximum limit. Also, with increasing divorce rates, they probably should worry about the same issues mentioned with the men.