How old should a girl be when you tell them about s*x and about periods?

Question

is 9 and 10 to young

Answer 1

for period thats a good age...but s*x maybe wait a couple of more years.....

Answer 2

i would say 11 cuz most girls start it around that age and they need to know before they get it so they dont get scared, but cant be too young cuz she wont understand

Answer 3

I think that is a good age. She can start her period anytime and she should be prepared in case she starts while at school. Also better talk about s*x with her before it even gets into her head. Maybe wait until middle school for the s*x talk... but early and often is best. Stay in her life and let her know that it is ok to talk to you about it.

Answer 4

Definitely not too young.

You should educate a girl about having period (& hence at least the basics about s*x) well before she is likely to get her period!  Start now!

It is how you do it that matters.

Answer 5

theyll learn it all at skl, so you dont have to tell them

Answer 6

I think at least by age 8. School children talk a lot and many know a LOT more than I did at their age.  Movies are not as innocent as they used to be for children, and you don't want them to find out from others and the media before they find out from you, as they may get wrong information that will confuse them or scare them.

You can start out by asking if they know how babies are made and see what they already think, then explain a little and let them go away and think about it for a few weeks before you tell them any more.  

Answer 7

no its not, the 10 year old may be runing into a period where she can get it anytime (some get em as young as 11)

you dont have to go in detail about things

but they def old enough to know where babies come with, farming wise kids that age have seen animal breeding often enough already

some may say its to young its not, preasure from tv, and magasine create peer preasure who get to kids long before parents realise, you have to beat them to it and get them to think it through beforehand

like you can say that babies come from women and man loving eachother very much and being togheter alone. Make sure to tell them they are special and to focus on school instead of rushing into becoming adults, that there is plenty of time for that later and that they cant take it back once they did something....etc. Basicaly as a parent induce them with the confidence in themself on this area to have the strength needed to say No, make sure to take the smoke and drinking talk as well.

Most parents think 13-14, and then get a horible shock when they realise their 12 year old come home pregnant, there was a documentary from one state in US who displayed that kids in that age saw it all as a peer preasure game, and would have girls even stimulating boys on the buss without the driver being aware what the kids was up too. So dont make the mistace, keep an eye on them and talk to them now while you still have a chanse to be the first one to influence them, so they can learn to take a stand on it.

And then make sure that they know that when they are ready to know more, they can come talk to you without it being weird (which also talking to them this early will help, because it will de-senzitise them to the subject, so they dont feel its so embarasing, but rather become something they feel your their best pall to naturaly ask about it)

So no, talk to them now, the moment their peers inform them and togheter with them descide its a dangerous embarasing topic, thats bad enough to talk to eachother with not to speak of their parents, that moment you lost. You have to get to them before the media, before their peers, before tv and magasines, and get them to feel its nothing to be embaraced about and that your a safe natural person to talk to, its the Only way to gain control of what they learn, and get an influence on their choises.

Answer 8

10 is not young I'm only 12 but when I started getting hair down their she told me about periods when  I was 11 she started  talking to me about s*x ed and in 6th grade (i was 10 and 11) they  started  teaching us the birds and bees and why its important to wait until marriage so you wont get aids or hiv

Answer 9

I don't think 9 and 10 is to young. You have to think about how mature they are, can they handle it and do they already know what it is.

Answer 10

Whenever they ask, and if they don't ask, whenever it becomes obvious that they've reached puberty.

Answer 11

Heavens no!  I got my period at 10!  As soon as they are old enough to ask the questions, they should be given the answers, truthfully.

Answer 12

She should know about basics when she gets her first period...it has nothing to do with age...Girls mature differently. Take Care

Answer 13

My cousin told me what s*x was when I was like 6 or 7

and I got period at 13.

so rlly whenever they ask just dont lie or sugarcoat things

Answer 14

i would say tell them about periods at that age but i would wait a couple of more years before u tell them about s*x good luck :)

Answer 15

12 ish maybe or when they start there period

but for s*x about 14 depends wat kind of child it is

Answer 16

Now a days parents are waiting and talking to their kids about s*x too late.  I would say 11 or 12 is a good age, but it really depends on the circumstances.  If they ask, tell them, or if they are going into puberty tell them.  But just dont wait too long :)

Answer 17

Not really, as some girls start puberty at those ages

They may already know, as some friends have told them

Answer 18

I THINK THE EARLIER THE BETTER BECAUSE KIDS ARE HAVING s*x REALLY EARLY NOW A DAYS ITS BETTER FOR YOU TO BE OPEN THAN TO REGRET SEEING HER PREGNANT OR WITH AN STD

Answer 19

I think it's ok to discuss periods with a girl around that age, but not s*x. When I was nine, my mom bought a book all about it and we stayed at a hotel, she made it an all girl weekend. Which I thought was cool, also I was able to get an understanding of what one was. I don't think talking about s*x with someone that age is appropriate though. In our society nowadays it's not uncommon that younger kids know about it though. That doesn't make it a good thing. I have an older brother, so I knew at a younger age. I think it would've been better to wait until I'm the age I am now to learn about it. I have an open family though, if I have any questions about anything I can just ask. I've talked to my mom about s*x and being a women, but I don't always want to talk with her about stuff like that. That's what my peers are for. When I was in 5th grade, our whole class went to a place that talked to boys and girls separately about puberty. I think you can discuss puberty with a girl when she's about to enter middle school, seeing as that's when most girls experience their period first. As for s*x, it can wait until high school, unless she's already sexually active, which is a scary thought. I hope this helps

Answer 20

Pretty heavy question and it rates a star from me ,,,,

The indoctrination of children where the facts of life are concerned should be started gradually at a young age and throughout their formative years say from the time they first start asking questions up to the age of puberty ,,,, It should be done in gradual stages and not beyond the child's comprehension at what ever age the subject comes up ,,,,  As the child gets older the questions are going to be more frequent and a little more involved and detailed ,,,, The answers should be as equally involved  and detailed as the question but no more ,,,, You don't need to go into over kill with TM I (Too Much Info) too early ,,,, Let the child set the pace ,,,,  

Over the years and with proper consistant and responsible instruction she's going to have a fairly complete back ground in the knowledge about the mechanics in the facts of life ,,,, What and how things are explained should depend on the individual child because each child develops at a different rate physically mentally and emotionally ,,,,Here again let the child set the pace ,,,,  They will ask question on things they want to know just out of curiosity ,,,, The answer should only be what it takes to satisfy the childs curiosity at that stage and no more ,,,,

This is something that comes a little easier to children living on farms where live stock is bread and raised ,,,, Also as the child gets closer to this event she might have friends that have already started this process and she learns something about it from them ,,,, This do not relieve the parent of the responsibility of discussing this with the child though ,,,,It should be discussed just to make sure she has the proper slant on things concerning this issue  ,,,,    

s*x education and bodily functions should be taught in the home at the parents discretion and not that of some school that categorizes all children just by age instead of maturity or mental capability ,,,, s*x education in schools is one of the reasons there are so many teen pregnancies ,,,,, For some kids s*x education in school is just a walk in the park because they are mature enough to handle it  ,,,,With other kids of the same age they may not have even given it a thought yet and the class only serves to open up a can of worms ,,,,  

She should definitely know about the period before her first one so she will have some idea of what to expect ,,,,The first period can be a pretty scary thing for girls that have been kept in the dark ,,,, And that does happen ,,,, It's very rare but there have been girls that started as early as the age of 9 ,,,, On the other end of the scale as late as 19 or 20 and rarely sometimes older than that ,,,, Girls can mature faster or slower than other girls too but generally it stars at or around the age of 11 ,,,,    

Exactly when the child is told the how ,, when ,, and why of things should be left up to the discretion of the parents ,,,, It's just not something you all of a sudden come out with and say "surprise" ,,,, This whole thing should be a culmination of instructions throughout the formative years of their lives ,,,, The process should start when they are old enough to get curious and able to ask questions up to the age of puberty ,,,, Usually by the age of puberty the person is pretty well set in their ways ,,,,  

Where this is concerned parents should be the teachers and not the school ,,,, When ,, is something that should be determined by the parent and taught on a one on one bassis and at the speed the child can handle and not just because a child fits some catagory established by some generalization ,,,, Where this is concerned one size does not fit all so to speak ,,,, Children are human beings too and they need to be taught ,,,, Proper consistant and responsible teaching determines how well a child will fair in the big world ,,,,

The proper rearing of children IS Not an easy task ,,,, Sometimes it can be a real heart breaker ,,,,,But with proper consistant and responsible dicipline during their formative years a child will grow up to be a responsible adult and parent ,,,,  The training they got as a child will also enable them to exercise self dicipline in later years ,,,, //

Answer 21

I'd say - wait until they ask questions. 9 or 10 is the right age for the period talk.  If she asks questions about where babies come from and whatnot, then go ahead and lightly cover the subject.  I don't think they're mature enough to know the full blown details.  

Bath n Body has a great book they sell for tweens about their bodies.  I'm sorry - I don't know the name of it but they only sell ONE book.  It's in the younger girls selection.

Good luck, but don't wait too long.  Girls are starting to have their periods earlier and earlier it seems - and she's going to need to know that it could happen anytime.

Answer 22

second grade.

if you dont tell them they will learn from someone else. other kids in school. i had a friend who started her period in the second grade. i learned about a condom about the same time.

when i was in the 7th grade age 12, there were 3 girls in my grade pregnant. because of that my kids knew very early. though they really didnt understand the full concept, when kids talked about it at school, they knew what they were talking about, talked to me about it and i set the record straight on what they were hearing.

Answer 23

If you're talking about your own daughter, think about how old were you when you got your period?

Try to speak to them about what a period is around that age that you got yours, and then the questions may poor out. What is it? Why does it come? What does it do?

And unfortunately you'll have to explain that it's an unfertilzed egg, well whats an unfertilized egg?

You see what im saying?

Talking about s*x & periods is very vital, but if the child doesn't ask any questions, ask if she has any questions.

And if the conversation doesn't lead to s*x, wait until she is about 12 or 13.

Answer 24

personnaly I think 9 and 10 is too young.  Wait till they are teen... Like maybe 13...

At 9 or 10, the only thing they are suppose to care about is their dolls.

Answer 25

i would start a 10 since some girls get their periods at 11.

good luck

Answer 26

whenever you feel they are ready.