How old were you when you finally decided that you were g*y/bi?

Question

im 16 and think that i am bisexual. i have had s*x with a girl and it was alright (probably because the girl was reluctant as soon as i started due to feelings she had towards another boy making it kind of awkward :/) i want to have s*x with girls again and i like this girl and want her as a girl friend so i deffinitly have a straight side to me. i want a wife and kids when i get older

I also am attracted to guys. I have experimented with a friend who also beleives he is bi. i am curious about g*y s*x and would try it.

i cant ever see myself dating a guy or treating one like i would a girl (i cant even see myself kissing a guy) so my attraction to guys is strictly sexual

I think im bi and im totally OK with that but at the same time maybe its just hormones? but how many hormones could there be?

also i think people are born g*y (NOT A CHOICE AT ALL) but the thought of "becoming g*y" intrigues me. I spent most of my childhood around my 4 very girly and 1 g*y (very fem) cousins and i look up to them so i guess i act like them which is normal for people to do. maybe my mannerisms i picked up from them contribute to such feelings?

bottom line is that im fine with being bisexual if i am but im wondering when i should make that decision final.

Answer 1

its wasnt really a decision for me....i knew i was different when i was little but i knew how i was different when i turned 11...so yeah its not a choice but its up to you what you wana do...you dont need to get married now so play around with boys n girls if you want...thats till your ready for the old ball n chains!!! lol  

Answer 2

I didn't decide that I was g*y.

So, you know.

...Wow. I can't even read your entire thing.

In fact, I shall read in a few minutes when I'm not angry, and get back to you.

Answer 3

As odd as this sounds to people, I realized I was attracted to other females when I was around the age of 10. Ive never been one to act my age, ive always seemed older in a sense. So when I got those feelings, I didn't doubt them for long.  

I consider myself bisexual, but my friend made the comment of me being asexual. Which apparently is someone who is attracted to either gender, but not sexually. Not that they couldn't perform acts, or get pleasure from it, they just not seems attracted sexually in ways others are..

I don't know..sounds odd to moi.Definitelyy something I'll have to research.

Answer 4

I remember at age 8 I had a friend I used to stay the night at his house on the weekends, and of course we had our little "fort" that we would sleep in, that way no one else was around, it was that age that I had my first bi-encounter and gave another guy oral s*x, since that was so long ago I dont really remember the actual thoughts or emotions going thru my mind,  but then a few years later at age 13 I was exploring another sexual avenue, Crossdressing, so here I was at 13 experimenting with wearing bras and stuff, and scared sh1tless about being caught, and back then with no internet to research I felt I was the only guy in the world that had a thing for wearing a bra and/or pantyhose and stuff like that,  I still had the bi-curious thoughts from time to time, but due to societies pressure there was no admitting things like bi-curious or Crossdresser,  So at age 14 I was able to admit to myself I was a crossdresser, about age 35 I was finally able to Accept myself as a Crossdresser,  At age 27 I was able to admit to a buddy of mine about being bi-curious, so after some partying and a few good drinks we decided to play a game of Oral s*x, that lasted 2 weeks, after that I was able to admit to myself that I was very much so Bi-curious, since all we did was oral, I am still curious about somethings,  But overall I took along time to be able to admit to myself that I was in fact a Bi-curious crossdresser, but to admit that to any family or friends I would have to say no I cant, the friends I have told about crossdressing are OK with it as far as I know from what they tell me,,  Like it was said above the time to talk about it is on you, what works for you, and when the right words come to you again you will know,  So I was about 35 or 37 when I was finally able to accept myself as a bi-curious crossdresser, good luck

Answer 5

i im in love with guys since i came out but i was 13 when i like the first girl

Answer 6

I was aware that I like girls since I was 8, I got my first crush (girl) at 11 but I was      comfortable about it at 13, and then got another crush that same year.

Answer 7

I didn't figure out I was bisexual until I was 22 and already married.  I was so afraid of being labelled a L*****n, or having to choose between men and women (don't know why bisexuality didn't occur to me...I guess I was naive and thought you HAD to go with one or the other).

Quite honestly: Don't sweat over it too much now.  Life is too short to get hung up on labels...trust me.  When you know...you'll know.  But don't let life pass you by while you're trying to decide what label to put on yourself.  

Answer 8

I was probably 20 when I decided I was g*y. I had had a relationship with a girl, then a guy, then another girl, and by that time I decided I liked guys better.

You're still very young. The main thing for you to realize is that you're a good and worthy person, regardless of your sexual preference. And it's not like worrying about it can change it, so relax, be yourself, and be happy.

Answer 9

I came to accept the fact that I was g*y when I was 18, the middle of my senior year in high school. It was the most amazing sense of relief I have ever felt in my life - to finally understand yourself and realize that you are okay the way you are.  This was in 1975, so information and resources were extremely limited compared to today.  

Answer 10

I knew at the age of eight that I liked males and females.

Answer 11

definitley when you are 18 years old. because that is the age when you are considered an adult.

Answer 12

Up until about thirteen years of age I was completely straight. s*x with other males was simply repulsive to me, but I slowly developed an attraction for them, and three years later, 'became', if you will, full-out bisexual.

[EDIT]: If you want to argue it with me drop me by an email. I'm writing a book on human sexuality.

Answer 13

I figured out that I was bi when I was 20! I have had s*x with equal numbers of both sexes. I have had girlfriends, but I too cannot see myself with a boyfriend. Although I am open to it.

I can tell you now that g*y s*x is completely different to straight s*x. To me both feel completely natural, but g*y s*x can be more painful (obviously).

It is widely believed by most of the learned class that bisexuality is far more common than is let on.  In fact it is thought that only about 4% are completely straight and only 4% and completely g*y.  But those to actually practice both s*x types are also relatively rare.  But they also agree that becoming g*y is not really an option (though hormone fluctuation during puberty is certainly a possibility).

I would say give g*y s*x a go. Nowadays having g*y s*x is not necessarily a bad thing, but I wouldn't make a final decision until you are 18 because this could be a hormone flux.

Answer 14

i didnt let myself believe i was g*y till i was like 14. and if you would enjoy s*x with a guy then i think you are probably bi. try not to put labels on yourself and try anything that comes natural! (but make sure to wear a condom!) if u hook up with a guy friend see how u like it then you are more likly to realize your sexual identity.

Answer 15

I was 14 or so when I realized I was g*y. I think you should give yourself some time to think things over. I doesn´t matter if you are g*y, bi or str8. Just try to be a good person and don´t hurt anybody´s feelings. I mean If you are with a girl try not to be looking for guys to have s*x or something. She might realized some day and take it from me that hurts a lot.

Best wishes!

I´m sorry I´m not a native speaker

Answer 16

I was 9 when I had my first crush on a boy.  I was 13 when I had my first crush on a girl.  

Answer 17

bisexual - lost virginity to a guy by choice when i was just weeks shy of 15 and first girl friend with sexual activity the same year (guy dumped me 'cuz i slept with him, natch - typical het in the moral majority.) friends and family branded me as bi on my way out the proverbial door of theoretically normal society.

i personally don't believe you CAN make the decision final, since it's not a decision.

Answer 18

well i never did like a girl but i started noticing the guys in 6th grade.  

Answer 19

I suppose you can make that decision on the same day you decide you want to be either a gynecologist or a proctologist. lol Sorry, you can't decide. You can choose to act on an impulse or another, but as far as how you feel? You will either be or not.

The decision to be or not to be bisexual is not yours to make. Now, on the other hand, you can choose to have Fritos or you can choose Cheetos. If you choose Fritos!? .. then lord help you, your nuts. lol

It'll be OK. It'll all become clear to you soon enough. =)