How old were you when you got married?

Question

Everyone is always telling me that you shouldn't get married young. The most common reason is so that i can "live my life" before i settle down. But i already have a daughter and i am going to college so there is much of living my life that would change if i were married. So i am just curious how old you were when you got married and if you would change it, why or why not.

Answer 1

I got married when I was 20. We had been together 4 years when we got married...now we've been married for 3 years. I wouldn't change a thing. I knew he was the one...and I couldn't be happier.  

Answer 2

I got married first time around at 32. I think it's great to marry younger if you're mature enough, so that you can "live your life" after kids are grown.  I think it's great to marry at 30something so you can "live your life" before kids are grown.  But really, you're living your life all the time, before, during, and after childrearing.

If I could change it, I wouldn't marry the same woman I did in 1986, because it was a disaster, but I wouldn't marry earlier because I simply was not ready.  If I could go back in time AND change my personality, it would have been nice to have kids when I was younger and had more energy to deal with them, but it would really have sidetracked my career. I think the timing was really about right for me; just not the wife.

Answer 3

25 yrs old the first time, and yes, if I could change it, I would not have married that young.  Married at 39 the second time, and new at that age exactly what I wanted, and obtained that.  Happily married for 8 yrs now... happiest of my life !!!!

Answer 4

I was 26.

I wouldn't change the age. Maybe the wife but not the age.

Answer 5

I'll be 22 in 3 weeks, but I got married at 19, to be honest, at the moment I thought that I would be different, and we were going to last, all the things that people think at that age, If I were to do it again, I wouldn't have gotten married at that age, I would have waited, and not gone into it with a rush, now I'm about to be 22, and planning on getting a divorce. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

i got married when i was 19. She said she was to young to get married when she was 18. After 8 years of marriage and 2 children. she said she was only with 2 other guy's were not together because of infidelity on her part (good luck)

Answer 7

27 - he was 29

Answer 8

23

Answer 9

i got married the first time at 22, big mistake. the second time at 31. i feel i am much more mature now, and know what i want. i wish i had waited the first time.

Answer 10

I'll be 22 when I get married next summer. I know I'm making the right choice.

I, as well, have a 4 year old and am in college and work full-time as well. Never been the partying/love being single type, even pre-baby. I've lived on my own and pay my own bills for quite some time now. My fiance and I have been dating for 3 years. So, I suppose my age says I'm young, but usually I feel like I'm 30 :)

Answer 11

I was 22 and my husband was 26 when we got married.

We started dating march 1990 when he  was 25 and i was 21

Got engaged 3 months later in june 1990

Moved in together october 1990

Got married january 19,1991 when he was 26 and i was 22.

So we had been together 10 months when we married.

I wouldn't change anything

Answer 12

I was 24 and he was 31.  But we dated for 7 years before we got married and we been married for 5 years now. I waited so long to marry him because I wanted to finish my Master's program first.

Its okay.  I just wish sometimes I got my own place first before I got married, but other than that everything is fine it works for us!!!

Answer 13

24 and not smart enough to stop it

Answer 14

I was 24 in my first marriage and 35 in my second marriage.  

Yes I would change it - I would stay single a lot longer in both cases.  That is really the best life for me.

Answer 15

25 and I think I could have married at 20 and been just fine too

Answer 16

my husband and i got married 5 years ago when i was 23. we've been through good times and some rough waters and, yes, there were times when i wish i hadn't married him but, mainly, it;s been quite good. we have a 4 year old son who we adore. no regrets there... life's been good to us in general. as a young woman i don't think i miss out on anything....

  

Answer 17

I was 19, four months shy of 20.  I'm  only four hours older than my wife, she was born the day after me.    We've been married for over 25 years, have five kids, and still have s*x 5 times a week.  Life's mostly great.  Would I change it.  With 20/20 hind site, probably.  There are things about my wife that had I chosen better I would probably be more happy.  That's not saying I'm not happy in my marriage, because I am.  But, to keep things happy I have really had to sacrifice a lot of things that I enjoy, because it's better on the relationship to spend time together, than to do what I want.  For example, sports.  She doesn't play anything and I love to play.  I don't play much because it takes time from her.  She hates to fish.  So... I don't fish much.  Hunting,  well, lets just say I don't do near as much as I would like.  She is pretty tollorant, but it's unfair of me to do what I would like.  Now, if she liked all those things....Yes, life would be better.  Could I have found someone that had more similar interests?  Probably.

Here's the deal though.  Statistically,  if you wait until you are at least 25 you stand a greater chance of staying married.  There is a lot a maturing that happens between 20 and 25.   Also statistcally, if you don't live together prior to marriage you have a greater chance of staying married.  I also know there are huge differences in the level of maturity from person to person.  The biggest thing is choosing wisely when you choose your spouse.  Make sure you have dated at least two years.  That really helps you know what you are getting into.  That said,  I dated my wife two years, so I knew what I was getting into.  At that young age I didn't think about the future and what it would be like without the similar intersts.  As it is, we are involved with things where our interests overlap and we spend a lot of time doing those things.  The trouble is, we don't overlap much.

That said,  I believe if two people are committed, they can work though basically anything in a marriage and make it last.  It does take sacrifice on both parts and major commitment.

I assume your bf is the father of your child....If that's the case,  You should get married yesterday!!!!!

Also, we didn't have our first child until age 22.  I'm sure that helped.

Answer 18

I was 24 when I got married but I dated my husband for 2 1/2 years before we got engaged. We have now been married for almost 3 years. I think I was young but I also did not have a child to worry about. If I had a child, dating would not be my priority as men coming in and out is not a great example for a child. I think if you are young and still in college you should not even think about marriage until you are done and I would put your child first before a man! Marriage is not easy and it is for life, think about that.

Answer 19

I was 24 and she was 22. We've been happily married for several years. I received the same advice you did... "don't get married so young, you have so much life still to live." Well, I am "living" life - with my beautiful wife, and I wouldn't have it any other way!!!

Answer 20

30...the first time...40 the second...I partied hardy in my twenties...yeah baby

Answer 21

got married at 19 . i am 23 now and it still ok that i got married that young but really i would have waited for kids . i wouldn t trade my kids for anything in the world but i could have more fun than changing diapers and having plates and food and sippy cup threwn in my face . also i would have been able to to enjoy my hubby more . but then i say when they re ready to move out the house we will still be young and can explore the world then .  

Answer 22

It's different for everyone I guess. I got married at 18 and got divorced at 21 . So it doesn't work out sometimes. The best advice I could give you would be to enjoy your life . Good luck:)

Answer 23

24 the first time - way too young!  40 the second time - still going strong and loving every minute of it!

Answer 24

I got married my freshman year of college when I was a month from turning 19.  Looking back I know it was waayyyy to soon.  I am still married, and have been for 6 1/2 years but we are barely holding on.  Being married so young, we have grown apart as we have gotten older.  I am 25 now and all of my friends are just now getting married and I am envious of how happy they are.  After we were married, I stopped going to school and worked full time so that we could support each other financially.  I regret that even more, not finishing school.  

Answer 25

the first time was when i was 18 and the 2nd time was when i was 20. but i would wait until you are older. i love me life now with my 2nd husband.

Answer 26

i was 19 and i love being married my sister in law was 17 when she got married and they are doing good

Answer 27

I got married a month after I turned 19, If I had to do it over I wouldn't have gotten married so young. After ten years of marriage we got a divorce not on bad terms we just grew apart and wanted different things in life.