How should I be responding to her?

Question

My cousin and I talk to each other a lot online. We live far apart so we talk to each other through msn messenger and email. Lately though every time I email her she doesn't read them and responds by saying, I didn't read any of that, I'm too busy. When I ask her what she's so busy doing she says talking to her friends. Basically, she doesn't have time for me. I'm home schooled by choice and one of the reasons I'm home schooled is because I was ignored by people who called me their friend. I have 3 other cousins who ignore me like that too so I just ignore them. I just figured that it was because we have nothing in common. But I finally I thought that this cousin that I talk to often was different. But now she doesn't have time for me. Nobody does! Am I overreacting or do I have a right to feel hurt? How do I respond to her emails when she says that or when she doesn't say anything when we're on msn?

Answer 1

Sweetie, you have to get out and make some friends.  I don't know that it's a good idea that you're being home schooled, as it makes you terribly lonely and doesn't allow any interaction with people your own age face to face.  About your cousin, she's just being a normal teenager... they're not always considerate and consider their own needs first... just part of growing up.  

She'll probably come around, but you can't put that much emphasis on one person.  Try to get out and meet some other people. That's all you can do right now.  Not all your life can be lived online, okay?  Good luck.

Answer 2

OMG!! I'd never ever thought I'd find anyone who is the same type of person as myself. I'm the exact same. Every person my own age I've ever met in my life (at least since I turned teen and my childish friends became grumpy teens who ignored me because I got on with things) has always been an "aquantance" rather then a long term. I find that people my age are very bitchy, suspicious, and sly, while older people such and my mam and aunts too are kinder and sort of realize who I am and how I feel and you get the sense that "they've been there". The funny thing is that my aunts have persona's like the girls in college. It's so annoying. Why do people are own age (youth) get so wound up about who we are as people? Why can't they just accept and treat us like friends?

I get told time and time again I need to get out and get a life, but what they don't realize is that family and other 'types' of friends are lives too, and they are the ones who need to accept the changes.

Don't be worrying about anything. Just remember you are NOT alone!!