How should I convince my mom (who is being hypocritical) to let me try contacts?

Question

I've had glasses for 8 months (nearsighted), and I'm almost 14. I don't want glasses since they're easy to break, I play sports, and I don't like how they make me look. My mom just says to take them off when I exercise, but I can't see, & I need to see well to play sports! She thinks that contacts are unhealthy, I'm too young, and they're expensive. She told me to wait until college and/or get laser eye surgery. The worst part is that SHE used to have contacts, and then she's the one who got laser eye surgery several years ago. Isn't surgery way riskier than contact lenses?

I tried talking to her about it, but every time I brought it up, she got annoyed and said no. I can't get myself to make her listen without giving up. Last Christmas, I gave her a Christmas card with a long explanation of reasons for me to get contacts. She still said no. I haven't mentioned it since then.

Oh yeah, & my mom knows I'm responsible, so I don't know why she thinks I'm too young.

Answer 1

yeah when they 1st came out contacts were really expensive. Now there like 34 bucks for 6 pairs of contacts and you wear each pair for 2 weaks so that should last you at least 3 months. Try taking her to the eye doctor and have the eye doctor explain that it is safe and there is minimal risks.

Answer 2

Contacts aren't unhealthy. If they were... doctors wouldn't sell them to you.

I started wearing contacts at the age of nine. So you are not too young. And the cost of contacts just depends on your percription and whether you're getting the ones that last months at a time where you clean them every night, or disposable. I'd say disposables are more expensive.

Lazar eye surgery probably has more possible defects then contacts ever would.

You try talking to your dad about em?

Answer 3

I had a similar issue, my dad just doesn't trust those things.  I suggest you ask her what made her get contacts then eventually settle on surgery.  Try to make this question a subtle one so your motive does not come through.  THEN, if her reasons are legitimate and similar to yours in some way, ask her why she won't allow you to have the same chance to at least see for yourself what it is like.  Tell her you are a responsible young woman and promise her that if you fail in that aspect in any way, that you will revert to your glasses.

If she relents, be very, very, very responsible with your contacts for an extended period of time.

I hope this helps =)

Answer 4

tell her....

sory got nothin

Answer 5

MY PARENTS SAY THE EXACT SAME THING!!!

surgery and everything

wow

they're are considering it now after a year long argument, just say you find the frames distracting but frameless are too delicate to play sport with, and (regardless whether this is tru or not) that the capillaries are breaking near the bridge of your know where the glasses sit

GOOD LUCK =]

Answer 6

I'm 16 and I was in the same situation as you. I understand how it feels and I'm very sorry to hear that.

I was just allowed to give them a go recently after years of hassling and convincing them.

Tell them that wearing contacts can benefit you in ways such as how you look on the outside, your self-esteem and the avoidance of physical damage you can receive from playing sports with glasses on.

Tell them to try and imagine how it'd be to play sports with blurry vision! They're only telling you this now because they haven't experienced it before. You will need to put that image of it in their head.

No, contacts aren't 'unhealthy'. As long as you are determined to maintain high levels of cleanliness and be patient, you will have no problems with them. Laser surgery is more of a risk as some patients who undergo this end up with after-effects for life which cannot be regretted.

I truly believe contacts are a very private thing and no one can boss you around telling you what to do with them. If you are resposible, look for a job and become more financially independent. Then, order and pay for them yourself. That shows your maturity. She will just be a nonsense if she keeps going on about something that you can't do when you know you can. You gotta let her see this! If she's the type that only believes things after seeing them, then show her!

I wish you all the best of luck! :)

Oh, and sorry for the long answer!