How should I deal with my creepy neighbor?

Question

I'm a young woman who lives alone, and recently a new man moved into my apartment building. About a week after moving in he approached me, introduced himself, complimented the car I drive and the dress I wore a few days before, and asked me out on a date. I was polite but declined the date...and very creeped out because he lives on the opposite side of my building, and would have no way of seeing the dress I wore that night unless he was watching me from outside.

Since then, he approaches me about once a week. He regularly walks outside my sliding door even though he doesn't live on that side of the building, and has even started coming right up to my sliding door to strike up a conversation while I am minding my business inside. I looked him up on our state's public prison database and he has a criminal record - narcotics possession and breaking & entering. What is best at this point? Tell him point blank to back off, or continue to be polite but standoffish and avoid him? I do NOT want to p**s this guy off.

Answer 1

I would strongly suggest you advise you closest law enforcement agency, and they will run him to see if he is on parole or on probation, at which point, there is a slight chance that he could be violated on either or for his actions.  Its worth a try.

Answer 2

He's stalking you.  He has a criminal background and may be required to report to his  parole officer...if he was paroled.  His parole officer needs to know of his behavior.   I'd be standoffish and down to the police station to alert them and see if in fact he's out on parole...let them know what's going on..What you say to them will be held in confidence.  You may also want to alert your apartment manager.

Best always to be pro active with these individuals and NOT wait until something happens.  The guy is not a pillar of the community..you may do what you feel is necessary to protect yourself.  Better to meet this head on then allow it to simmer.   NO ONE likes a surprise at 2 in the morning.

Answer 3

i wouldn't tell him point blank. it's not a good idea to p**s someone off who has a criminal record. do you have any guy friends? if you do tell them what's going on. ask them to come over every once in a while. it'll give the guy the impression that you're taken and protected, so then hopefully he'll back off. try to get a big giant friend. lol. also, if he keeps imposing on your space, you could complain to whomever runs the apartment building. just tell them it's making you very uncomfortable. you have a right to be cautious when you're dealing with an ex-criminal.

Answer 4

Tell him you're an intovert and you have herpes.

Answer 5

Tell him point blank..

Answer 6

move into another apartment complex.

or ask a friend to move in with you.

Answer 7

If you do not want to have anything to do with him, tell him point blank to back off and leave you alone.  Be direct with him.  Tell him to stop coming to your apartment patio door.  Stand firm in your conversation with him.

Answer 8

Just tell him your too good for him

Answer 9

tell him point blank and if he doesnt listen, get a restraining order against him