How should I deal with my unborn child's father.?

Question

I thought that I met the man of my dreams earlier this year. He was everything that I wanted in a man. I was fooled my this Nigerian. Eight months later, I am pregnant by him. He has totally abandoned me.He tells me that he sleeps with many women without falling in love with them. I am constantly being harrassed by one of his girlfriends. When I call him with updates on the baby, he tells me that I am not his mom, wife, or girlfriend. He asks me not to call him anymore. He now treats me very badly. However, from time to time he ask to come over to sleep with me even though he is not supportive of me.

Answer 1

I would leave him be, he is not respectful toward you nor does he care about you or the child.  Make sure you keep up to date information on him though and take him to family court and make sure you pays you for child support.  That is about all you can do.  

Answer 2

Prohibit him from nocturnal visits. He has shown you what a scumbag he is.Get lawyer so you can establish paternity and child support. If you can document his lack of care for you and the baby, so much the better.

Get him out of your life.

Bad dream.

Answer 3

If you have the ability and resources, i think that you should seek family help, and try the parenting thing on your own, obviously he doesnt wanna be in the babies life, only when its convienent for him, so i think you shouldnt give him the option when its convienent for him, you should tell him if he really wnats to be there he has to be there with the ups and downs not just when he wants SOME...

Its not fair to you right now nor will it be fair to the infant (child)...

Answer 4

OMG that's sad.... I thought me and my unborn child's father had it bad..... I feel sorry 4 u.... Especially since this is a very emotional time 4 u...... But just keep praying..... It'll get better...

But DONT SLEEP WITH HIS DOGGISH A** NOMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!

@ least u have your pride.... dont keep giving in to him..... It'll only make u hurt more in the long run..... PLEASE PUT HIS A** on child support......

If u wanna talk email me......

Answer 5

This is a tough situation to be in. I went through this a couple of years back with my daughter's father. Because you are pregnant, you are a bit more emotional than normal. You find yourself giving into his wants because deep down, you want him there so we settle. You have to find solace with your family and friends and give him the impression that you are just fine without him. We don't have children to keep men and they have to know that. He is still very responsible so make sure that you seek child support even before the baby is born. The state will open a case before you have the baby. It is sad that we have to take care of our babies by ourselves but he/she may be better off in the long run not having to deal with an inconsiderate father. There are lots of programs for single mothers through the state from child care to WIC. Utilize that help. Hang in there and I will keep you in my prayers.  

Answer 6

CHILD SUPPORT!!!!

Answer 7

You need to totally leave him alone.  The only thing he needs to do is get ready to pay child support.  He might not won't your or the baby, but it is his place to take care of it financially.

Answer 8

What does him being Nigerian have anything to do with how he acts? Totally start on child support papers, and find a good lawyer. He sounds like an arrogant a**