How should I handel this relationship situation?

Question

My boyfriend of 8 months just recently told me that he was attracted to his friend (another girl). They were seeing each other for about less then 2 months before he left her for me.

I mean, I take that as he likes her but he claims there's a difference in between "attraction" and "liking". She's always asking him to hangout all the time. Anyways, he told me that he's been attracted to her for quite sometime and I got very upset. I mean am I not good enough for him or something? That's how I felt about it. But I wasn't extremely angry but I was very upset.

Should I be like on the edge of dumping him. Or just work through the issue. I don't know exactly how to handel it you know, I told him he isn't allowed to hang out with her anymore. But am I taking things too seriously?

(We're not 14 or anything, 17 and quite mature. I just need some good helpful opinions. Nothing rude please.)

Answer 1

It's good he atleast told you instead of keeping it a secret.

If I was in your position I'd tell him I wanted a break.

So you can both figure out exactly what you want without the added pressure.

You could stay with him & try to work it out if you really trust him.

Just be prepared for anything to happen.

Answer 2

If he dumped her for you, what isn't to say he's going to do the same thing and dump you for someone else (including her)

I believe if you have to put a "don't hang out with her" rule on one of your bf's friends then you obviously don't trust him.

Or he obviously can't respect you enough to realise that she may ruin the relationship that you two have going.

It doesn't sound like he's very serious about your relationship - that is my opinion.  

Answer 3

you should leave him its not going to be the end of the world your 17 and plus there's over a million people in the world and you can find somebody or somebody will find you. Its obvious and its known that he's attracted she wants too hangout all the time so just move on and try to remove yourself from the relationship soon before you really get hurt.

Answer 4

We men tend to think like that. I'm dating and im attracted to another girl but i dont like her. You have to try to understand his perspective because being attracted to someone doesnt necessarily mean u like them. I think you shouldnt dump him until you positively know that he likes her.

Answer 5

:( i'm sorry to hear. the best thing is to see how it goes for a little while, and if you still feel bad, then leave him before it's to late and you feel heartbroken.

Answer 6

You should definately try to work things out with him. Don't dump him yet, I'm sure he isen't happy about being attracted to another girl, you should be happy that he is being honest with you and that he hasn't gone off and cheated on you.

For that reason alone it is your responsibility to work this out. It took courage to tell you how he felt about this other girl and he told you because he still cares about you. He could have easily dumped you and gone for her but he didn't. Instead he told you because he cares for you and that is what matters.

So you need to work this out with him in return.

Answer 7

it's understandable that you don't want him hanging out with her but try learning how to spell

Answer 8

This was a "nice" way of him saying he wants to pursue other relationships.  Men NEVER tell their girlfriends they are attracted to other women.