I am a g*y male married to my partner. It is legal in my country.
One month ago, a man that I don't know knocked on my door. My spouse was not home. The man was looking for my spouse. I later discovered nude photos that my spouse had exchanged with this man by email, on our computer. This man had come to my home looking for my spouse because they had a date. My spouse wasn't home because he had gone to this man's house to meet him there. (They got confused on where to meet, which allowed me to figure out that my spouse had a date!)
I confronted my spouse on it, and after a long few weeks, we've been working on solving our differences. I thought things were maybe getting better (but with doubts that something was still not right).
Three days ago, I wasn't home in the evening. My spouse was home alone. The next day, I found in the cookies section of the computer that he had visited a g*y singles website. I found a profile he created on the site, the night I was away. The profile creation date shows the same date as my absence. I'm sure it's his profile -- it contains his birthdate, the part of the city he lives in, stats, and the profile user name is typical of his. It says that he's looking for "friends, casual dating, and some fun too."
I don't know what to do. I found this out by searching the cookies in his computer account -- so I was snooping around in his stuff. Do I confront him, or do I wait a while longer and see if we're able to continue sorting things out. I'm working hard to save us, so I don't want to just throw everything away.
We've been married four years. I'm sure that he loves me, but I don't understand what's driving him to continue like this.
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