I'm a 25 yo married women with an 11 month old son and am struggling with how to handle my narcissistic mother. For years I have put up with her emotional abuse and instability and in recent years, with the help of my husband, have managed to distance myself enough to keep the relationship from being too detrimental. That ended this past June when we were supposed to help my parents move: two days before the event we received an email stating she did not want our son coming with us and if we couldn't "work within those parameters" then to not bother coming at all. It was impossible to get a babysitter at that point (as well as completely unreasonable) so to make a long story short we got in a fight, did not end up going, and have not spoken to them since. My father is normally quite reasonable and the peacemaker in these situations but this time unfortuately he has decided not to do anything and go along with my mother. During the almost two months of silence they neglected to let me know my grandmother had been diagnosed with lymphoma and did not call on my birthday or acknowledge an email I sent about my son's christening date. Today I got a random email from my mother stating "So what IS wrong with you these days?" No acknowledgement of the fight or what led to the silence, just questioning what my problem was. How do I reply to this? Should I bother to write her back at all?
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