How should I handle this?

Question

My gf is getting ready to go to college in the next 1.5 weeks, and so today I called her to talk to her since I havent been able to talk to her much in the last few days and se told me that she was thinking that we werent going to be together much longer since she was going to school and that long distance relationships never work. As it is now, she lives 15 miles away from me and its hard to see her. She will be moving 75 miles away, making it just about an hour drive to get to see her (where shes going to school I drive to almost every weekend to buy groceries and whatnot) which is no problem. What I want to know is, is should I try talking her into trying out the long distance relationship or should I just take it for what it is and move on. I really like this girl so its hard for me to just drop it and move on, as she is the person I have been looking for for a long time. I am confused as ever, and as we started talking more about it she became quieter and quieter and I think that she may be considering breaking it off right away so that in 1.5 weeks she wont have to do it then. What should I do, I really like her.

Answer 1

it is better to runaway and escape, try to find another GF, but if she is yours, she will turn back ..always birds comeback to thier nests... have the best.

Answer 2

There's no harm in trying to talk her into continuing with the relationship.  You have nothing to lose.  But I would find out exactly where she's coming from first.  Maybe she's just thinking out loud.   She may not be saying the relationship is over.  She may be just trying to tell you that you guys won't be able to see each other as often or as spontaneously and that things will be different.

Ask her if she wants to end the relationship.  Remember, she's going off to college and is going to be very busy with studies.

If you are finding it hard seeing her now, think what it will be like when she lives 5x further away.  Trying to keep yourself emotionally invested under those circumstances is not an easy thing to do, for either of you.

If she became more and more quiet as you talked about this, it tells me she is trying to end the relationship as gently as she can.  I may be wrong but that's my take on it.

Answer 3

im sorry dude but u got to move on... it may kill ya but time kills everything even emotions...

Answer 4

Long distance relationships normally do not work.  It sounds like she wants to start college single.  If it is meant to be yall will get back together.

Answer 5

Look, if she cared enough, she would try to hold it together, especially if she knew you had to come there anyways.

   And you must realize that because you care enough to want to at least give it a try.

   Your also right about the way she went quiet, silence often speaks louder than words, when it comes to "matters of the heart"  silence... can be deafening.

    Wish her well and tell her it is alright, she is having a hard time knowing she's hurting you...

    i don't feel an end here, more of an "never know what you've got till its gone", more of a lengthy seperation.

     But you've got to go on and enjoy life untill then.

Answer 6

tell her how much you like her. that's the only way she'll know.if the love is strong enough it can stand the test of distance btw you 2.good luck.