How should I punish my 13yr daughter for stealing my car?

Question

when I woke up to go to the bathroom at around 1am i noticed my dauthers room light on and she was gone. I saw my keys on the floor and my car key was gone, i went out side and the car was gone too. I called her friends cell and asked where my car was she told me she didn't have it. I called her father over and he caught her bring the car back when he pulled up.

Answer 1

Ground her. No TV no going out no electronics, no phone, and everything besides going to school. Good luck with her.

Answer 2

well....take away her phone, tv, computer, friends,etc...then make an appointment with the local jail and ask if she can spend a few nights. see if she likes that!!

Answer 3

sounds like a girl with a problem ,,, yes you love her ,,, but you don't ,,,, do nothing and i mean nothing   no washing no cooking no nothing till she maybe comes around ,, which i don't think she will..that's my opinion

Answer 4

Ground her for as long as you like. Then make her ride the bus for a long time, trust me i am a kid and that sucks. And don't let her get her license until she is around the age 17-18. I would be pissed if my parents did this to me.

Answer 5

Hmmm... By stealing your car do you mean she drove it away? If so then you should ground her for a month or so, and get her a xbox with a madkatz racing wheels and let her play with it.[its like driving a real car[

Answer 6

suspend all privileges and never leave you child unattended for 2 months.  After school, make her go to grandma's or another family member who will keep her if you can't be with her.  Also, make her volunteer after school at a nursing home for 2 weeks.  Threaten to call the cops if she doesn't comply -just actually do it if she won't mind.

Call a juvenile detention officer and police officer, let them know you are trying to get your daughter on the right path; see if they'll talk to her...show her jail and what will happen if she does it again.  You have to make sure she gets it; this is major high risk behavior

Answer 7

d**n!! thats quite a big crime shes done there lol.

i would say stop the pocket money (As i know that got to me the most when i was younger) ground her and take away something that she likes for example computer console or something along them lines. dont give it back until u know she is truely sorry

Answer 8

you can take her computer, ipod or any electronic device that she has and keep it until she behave

Answer 9

The answers from the readers, Duh Huh and Bdazzle are good one to teach your daughter a good and hard lesson.

Answer 10

Since that's a big deal, take something away that actually means something to her or something that she does a lot (maybe phone priviledges, video games or friend visiting), and exaggerate the punishment time period. So you if you've only grounded her for a week before, this time make it a month. Then she'll know you mean business.

Answer 11

In her room for a week.  She can't leave her room except to go to school and eat.  No electronics for the rest of the month including that week.

Answer 12

tell her its not only a crime but unlawful,and you will call the police and report the car stolen if it ever happens again,and she will be arrested.you should also take away every privlidge she has for a indefinite amount of time.......

Answer 13

Make a BIG sandwich board, and write in big block letters:

I am a THEIF who will probably end up in JAIL if I keep acting IGNORANT (or somethign to that effect). Have her stand at a busy intersection (you bring a folding chair for yourself so you can watch her) and make her stand there for a day or two. That should be so mortifying that she'll never do it again

Answer 14

i agree, call the cops.  no offense, but if she's doing **** like this that is completely unacceptable.  obviously you should have punished her a long time ago.  call the cops and let her deal with the consequences before she gets any worse.  she needs to learn that there are consequences to her actions.

Answer 15

Make her walk every where for a while.  Nothing like natural consequences!   Tell her:  You steal my car, then you obviously need to learn the value of having one.

Answer 16

Well u shouldnt spank her thats the wrong way 2 go.When I stole me mom car at 16 she called da police.Dont b alarmed.She then got me arrested.She picked me up 5hrs later out of jail.I learned my lesson cause I kno not 2 steal anymore.Cause I didnt like jail & I waz in there only 5 hours!So just do that or talk 2 her about it in a calm matter. Hope I help

Answer 17

its called grounding..take her cell away. ground for about 4 months...you cant let her take advantage of you. you are the parent.

Answer 18

I'm sure that my father would send me in jail by the cops !

I would do it,too ! Thats no little mistake !

:- I

Answer 19

Alright. I dont know if they do this at your police station but tell them what happened. Ask to fake put her in jail for like 1 day to teach her a lesten. Ask the police to come to your house while you daughter is at you house too. ask them to knock on the door an run to your daughter and hand cuff her. Pretend to cry and fake ask them what happened. They will tell you. Then she will be taken to jail over night. Then the next day.Pretend you gave the police a 5,000 dollor ransom relese. After that she will go home and she will behave. Do not tell her what you rally did. Tell her when you think shes ready.

Answer 20

dont punish her.

act sad and disappointed that she did that.

Answer 21

lmao.... well you could take away her phone privilages, stop her seeing her friends, limit her internet access time, make her wash up for 2 weeks/ a month, make her wash the car a few times I dunno it's up to you.

Then when you have punished her, punish yourself for letting her get anywhere near your car keys.

Answer 22

I did this when i was 13 and i got caught by the cops my parents made me  ride 3 miles each way to the police station to pay my fine once a week. They also  took away all my privledges. That seemed to deter me for a while but  later i got into trouble in other aspects of life, I would  talk to her and try to see if she is hanging out with a new group of friends or if she is into  other activities. It is a hard situation because the more you try to cinfine her she will resent you but if you open up communication it may benefit you both and bring you closer in the end. My mom  did that with me and became my best friend

Answer 23

with a call to the cops, then punish her @ss even more by taking away EVERYTHING... breathing is a privelage. God, if my kid pulled that $hit she'd be in SO much trouble, she wouldn't know what hit her.

Answer 24

do you realize she could have killed somebody and you'd be on the hook. i would think you'd be sufficiently mad enough to skin her alive.

Answer 25

This sounds not only dangerous, but like a warning sign for future problems.  I think something big is in order.  Do you have any friends who are police officers?  You could have him or her come to the door in uniform and "take her in."  By the time they get to the police station, they can simply bring her home. Obviously, it would all be off the record, but might scare some sense into her.

Answer 26

ahhhh, she needs to get help, this is dangerous if u are not in a feild practicing or something. there is some problem that u are not telling us. U should lock ure car to, and hide the keys

Answer 27

YEAH but what was here reasons like if it was a good cause than dont but if she just felt like takin it that she should get the punishment

Answer 28

I think that you should'nt go too harsh on her.

Just give her a warning and take away something she really

likes and does all the time for a day or so. If she does it

again, then get harsh and make sure she does not do it again.

Answer 29

Pretend to call the cops on her and make up stuff about pressing charges for about a day or two. Freak her out about it and really make her think about what she did until she regrets it. Oh that would be funny.

If you want to call the cops, once you report the situation, the cops are involved and your daughter would be in legal trouble. You might want to think twice about actually calling them.

Don't let her in any cars unless it's to go to school. For a very, very long time.

I don't think this was a cry for help and that she needs to be babied. I think it sounds like an average 13 year old wanting to look cool to her friends.

Answer 30

13? I would beat her azz if she was mine....My guess is she hasn't heard the word "no" as much as she should. But I agree, call a local police dept and ask that you come in for a walk around and maybe get a talking to from a cop who has seen kids who start behaving this way and where that road will lead her in the future. Nip it in the bud NOW before the really big problems come around...God knows this is big enough. Best of luck to you.

Answer 31

Very high risk behavior like that is a cry for help. Forget punishment get her into some counseling. And keep her close to home for several months to monitor her behavior. This is not just 'bad' behavior.