How should I talk with my six year old son about kissing girls in school?

Question

my son was reading a book with this little girl in after school care, the teacher saw them sitting closer and closer together and she finally told them they needed to not sit so close to each other and they replied we are just reading a book, she walked away and then saw my son put his arm around the little girl and say "lets kiss", i need to talk with him but i'm not sure what to say and how to say it on his level, please help!

Answer 1

My son's friend told my son, at the time age 6, to go and kiss one of the cheerleaders from his football team and it threw me for a loop.  Then casually I told them that at this age the only girls they should be kissing is their Mommy's.  They both giggled at me but I think they got the point.  

My son now  7 has told me that a girl wants to be his girlfriend and I told him that it was ok to have girls as friends but no dating till he's in high school.

Answer 2

First of all, that is completely adorable! and second, just explain that kissing is not good and that maybe when he is older he can. Also say the other mommies will be mad at him.

Answer 3

Tell him that it is not acceptable behavior, and explain it in more detail when he gets older.  Who has he been watching and where did he learn it from?  You have to be careful, because people will sue for silly stuff like this.

Answer 4

you just tell him  its  not  a  well son  would you not do that  you tell him firmly  whos the parent here

Answer 5

TRY THIS:

I am so glad you and your friend like each other so much, but kissing her isn't appropriate in school, just like certain other kinds of touching are not okay for school.

For example, are you allowed to tackle one of your friends and rough house with them? Of course not, because that isn't how you act in school.



Can you tell me some other things that aren't allowed in school?

Okay, now what are some things that ARE allowed in school?

You see, some kinds of touching (with permission) are allowed in school and some kinds are not. Kissing is something that is not allowed in school, so please don't do it.

Then ask him more about his friend--ask open ended questions and just listen.

Answer 6

Tell him he can do it when he's older, tell him meanwhile he could just hug them I guess..lol not sure not a parent, personally I wouldn't be bothered with my son doing that though

Answer 7

I have young kids and I would tell him that he is 6 years old and that kids his age don't do things like that, especially at school.  Tell him that if he acts that way again he is going to get in trouble and the little girl might not be allowed to sit next to him anymore.

Does he have an older sibling who has a boy/girlfriend and kisses them in front of him?  Maybe he is just copying what he saw someone else do. s*x is all over the tv, too. Maybe he's jsut young and  didnt realize that he shouldnt be doing things like that.

Answer 8

Tell him that it's a grow up thing and that it  is inappropriate.

Answer 9

Teach him about personal space and how we have to keep our hands and lips! lol to ourselves....sometimes kids at this age don't understand this especially when they've been taught to show affection to people they like

Answer 10

A little boy kissed my daughter in kindergarden. Then he wanted to do it everyday. My daughter came home and told me. I asked what did the teacher say?  The teacher told him to " save all his hugs and kisses for mommy and daddy". I said thats good and never heard anymore about it.