How should I tell him this? ?

Question

I'm 25 years old and I've decided to move out of home and live with my boyfriend. I told my mom and she's ok with it, but I don't know how to tell my brother. My brother is 7 years old. My mom was single parent. she had to work a lot, so I practically raised him. Every night, he falls asleep on my lap and I carry him up and tuck him in. We're incredibly close and I don't know how to tell him I'm going away.

Answer 1

You have become his security blanket.  How about his mom using her lap for the boy to fall asleep in?  Get him use to that and your physical absence will not be so hard for him.  Talk to him every day and pop over when you can for some snuggling.  He is still at a tender age, so enjoy him.  Soon he will not like girls and all that stuff! You know, "girls have cooties". Anyway, don't try to hide if from him, just bite the bullet and tell him.  Mom should be willing to give him a little extra attention to smooth out the transition.

Answer 2

My husband went though this. Promise your brother he can come over to your new place now and then. Just make sure he knows you aren't leaving him.

We have my brothers in law over 2-3 times a month (far less then it used to be) for all day 'play days'.

One thing to watch out for, make sure he doesn't blame your BF. I was HATED my brothers in law because i took their oldest brother away. Now, they only just tolerate me.

Answer 3

Tell him by making it sound like the most normal thing in the world.  If you're sad and dramatic, he'll be sad and dramatic.  And, spend the first couple of weeks visiting him frequently.

Answer 4

Well, tell him the truth, but also tell him nothing changes. Save time to spend with him and take him places. Allow him to spend nights with you so that won't change too much. Call him each day just to see how his day was or making the other laugh. Have you boyfriend join in on these moments, not too much at first so he doesn't think you bf isn't muscling in. Doing this allows your brother to gradually look to him like a big brother. There is no easy answer as you will have to find ways on your own to make it work. Just show him the love you have for him will never change.

Answer 5

dont tell him "im moving away" tell him that, soon, you are going to have TWO homes, one with him and your mom, and one with ur boyfriend. be sure to visit often so he doesnt feel abondoned..eventually he will get used to the idea and he will get comfortable with seeing you less...and then less..and before you know it he will get older and his understanding and maturity will come through better,

Answer 6

I hope you're not going too far away because that can be tough on a kid. I grew up in a single parent household too and I have younger siblings. Fortunately, I didn't live that far away so I would go visit on the weekends and talk to my little brothers everyday. Spend as much time with the little one as you can, because at that age, it'll crush him.