How should I tell my close friend that she's a horrible person?

Question

I've been friends with this person on and off for about 10 years. She doesn't really have any other friends and the mutual friends we had, all seem to dislike her. She can't seem to find a mate because she says none of them want to commit to her. She's smart, intelligent, successful but her attitude sucks.

I've come to the conclusion that nobody likes her because she puts on an act when she's around people. She never acts like herself when she's out in public. She even talks with a different voice. She's rude and says ignorant things to people, things that she would not normally say behind closed doors. I think she has low self esteem and doesn't want anyone to know. I was one of the few people that stuck around to see the real her. She is a good person behind closed doors but for some reason when she gets around other people she is a total B*%CH! She even does this to me in public and I'm sick of it. How do I tell her that people hate her because she's fake and rude in public without risking losing her as a friend and her losing even more people in her life. thanks

Answer 1

Just tell her all of the things that she does that you do not agree with, and then tell her you dont want to be around it anymore. She'll get the point, and hopefully she will change her ways for the future.

Answer 2

you tell her the truth as nice as possible and if she freaks tell her your the best goddammm friend shes got...you care enough to tell her and be there to help her. thats what friends are for! if she walks then its no big loss to you

Answer 3

True friends should be able to talk to each other. Have a one on one with her, be the better person.Let her know how you feel, but let her talk to, it may be a reason for the way she acts,she may need your help! True friends will always be just that.