How should a mom take care of her first kid,as soon as she has given birth to the second baby?????

Question

Usually, when the second child comes to the family, the first kid feels neglected and lonely; even when the father takes care of him/her with all love he has, as mom is busy with the new infant. But, I wana know, how this situation may be helped by a mom giving her attention to both her kids, and make both kids feel her love equally at the same time...... Kindly Help ^ _ ^

Answer 1

I always let the older child(ren) help me with the new baby.  Plus, I always made special *mommy and me* time at least once a day (my husband cared for the baby at this time).  I also made sure our bedtime routine never changed, this was important to my eldest son especially.  Good luck and enjoy your new one!

Answer 2

I am pregnant w/our 2nd child. My husband and I discussed this extensively because our 7 year old was feeling anxious.

Since the baby will be sleeping throughout the day we told her we will still spend time w/her. We can read her books, watch a movie, play a game, etc. We told her on the weekend we will let her stay up a little bit later so we can do an activity. We are also going to take turns taking her to the park, store, etc. We keep reassuring her that even though things will be a little different, we still love her and need her help. She seems to be feeling better.  

Answer 3

balance, balance, balance.  make sure the older get as much attention as the baby. you are tired too it should be made clear to daddy, grandparents etc. they need to keep her on her pedestal or she will resent that child forever

Answer 4

My son and daughter are 24 months apart and I did not experience this...my daughter slept alot as a baby, therefore giving me plenty of time with my son...she would take naps in her swing and me and him would play or read books. Even when she was awake we would play with her and hug and kiss her...I never had a problem with the attention or jealousy....I however did a small problem with jealousy with my son when my daughter began to walk...which was at 7 months! The girl is a maniac lol but my son would get mad cause she would take his ninja turtles and power rangers away from him...and that was hilarious cause she is a little booger! She would steal his toys and run as fast as she could and then throw them behind the couch...before he can catch her to get his toys back lol

Answer 5

We let our daughter help with the baby as much as possible.  We encouraged her to interact with him.  She was only 4 at the time so this was obviously limited. Use some of your newborns nap time (when you're not resting as well) to bond with your older child.  Make sure you're not neglecting the older child or they will start to resent the younger child.  Good luck!

Answer 6

A new baby requires so much attention I believe everyone feels left out.  Nursing times and nap times are good times during the day to pay a little attention to other family members.  

Answer 7

Well when a baby is born they sleep alot. This could give you some nice one on one time with your older child. If he/she is old enough explain that the baby can't feed himself and needs you to do it, also that everything else the older child knows how to do the baby still needs lots of time to learn. I agree with the person first person that you should let them help out as much as you're comfortable. That will let them feel just as important as the new baby.

Answer 8

Well I have 2 girls a 3 month old and a 2 year old I love them both I try to let my little one help out she helps get the dipers or gets whatever I need for the baby I hold the baby on her lap I also like to lay them both down on a blanket together the main thing that helped was I got a little baby doll for her so she treats it like her own but while the baby naps and such i spend alot of  one on one time with her so not only does she get family time she has one on one time too

Answer 9

MAKE SURE YOU LET HIM/HER HELP AS MUCH AS YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE, AS THIS MAKES THEM FEEL IMPORTANT.

YOU ALSO NEED TO TAKE A "SPECIAL" TIME JUST FOR YOU AND THE OLDER CHILD EVERYDAY TO TALK/PLAY WHATEVER YOU GUYS DO TOGETHER, SO THAT THEY DON'T FEEL LEFT OUT.

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!