How should i go about leaving when he's home all the time?

Question

we've been together for two years have a five month old daughter together and i an the only one with an income. he cant keep a job or he's just to lazy to, to lazy to get one and i am planning on leaving but i'm not sure how to go about it when he's home all the time. because he does have an anger problem and i know he will start a fight and try to stop me and i just dont want that hassle. Can you help me please!

Answer 1

tell him your going to visit your mother/any family member. Then pack and take your kid with you, say that you are doing him a favor and letting him get some free time w/ no child.

If he has an anger problem you better take the child with you.

Another approach

Send him to the movies

Pack and leave then, but again bring your kid.

Hope this helps, one more thing

What you should also do is leave a note explaining your reasoning, if its possible to get back together let him know what he has to do, that way it is a learning thing and not just filled with surprise/un answered questions that will lead to anger

Answer 2

save your money and go..he sounds like he hasnt grown up yet. Can you go back to your folks? A sister or brother?

I walked out of my marriage with my kids, my cat, my PC, our clothing and my car..friends and family donated other furniture I needed. It was the best decision I ever made :)

Good luck, I hope you find a better life for you and your daughter :)

Answer 3

i know im only a teenager and stuff but my moms old bf was like that... she kicked him outta the house in the middle of the night when he was half asleep... if your the one leaving you should leave in the middle of the night. hope i could help!

Answer 4

Do it when you have someone over there who can make sure your okay leaving, call the police to help escort you out. Whatever you do make sure you have protection to keep you and your baby safe! Good luck

Answer 5

I have been through this. My ex still isn't working, it's been over a year now, and I left in February. Does he have any friends or family he likes to hang with? Let him go out with them, and give him a little spending cash and say have fun. I waited until I knew he would be gone for a few hours. Of course, over a few weeks time, I stashed some things I wanted to take with me and snuck a lot out when he did go out to hang with his brother and friends. I'd load up my trunk and make a dash to a local storage place or a family member's house. I did this with 2 kids in the house. It isn't easy, but it can be done if you want gone bad enuff. Other than that, call all your family and friends over and tell them you need them to help you grab your stuff and get gone. He may throw a fit, but with backup there, you not only have some safety, but witnesses if he gets violent and someone can call the cops. Make him leave, if he gets violent, press charges and have him arrested, then get a protection order. You have a small child and it won't be tolerated. He won't be allowed near you or your kid or the house or he can be arrested if he calls or comes near you guys. Get a court order if you can. Talk to someone at your local domestic violence office. Tell them why you're scared for your safety and they will help you if they can. Good luck.Or, if he's a dep sleeper, sneak out in the middle of the night. Whatever you leave behind can be replaced or gotten later with the presence of a local police officer. It's a hassle, but it can be done. Just make sure you get a court order to enter the home if there is a protection order or you can be arrested.

Answer 6

just tell him to get off his BOOTAYYYY or you're out. obviously you're leaving already but let him know he has one chance so that he has a warning and you didn't just leave him.

Answer 7

You leave the house every day to go to work (You said you are the one with an income)  Set it up.  Every day take one item that you need, but you may have to leave most of the big stuff in the beginning.  Then one day go out with the kid and go to the new place.  After your settled you can go about getting your other stuff (furniture)

Answer 8

Go and visit your parents and leave some of your things there the first time. When you come back from your parents go to the police tell them you want to leave the house but need an escort because you're affraid of your partner. They should be able to help you with this.

Answer 9

Sneak out, leave him a note...tell him you are leaving for good. Don't tell him where...

Answer 10

could the local police not help you, if the property is in your name then you have the right to kick him out,

Have lots of people with you when you do it

Does he not ever go out? ven if its an hour at night time you could do it then.

I would suggest getting other people you can trust involeved so your not on your own at the point of leaving

there shoudl also be local support groups of people who are in domestic violence relationships, shelters etc that could help you out

Answer 11

Just grab you and your daughter and don't look back.  Stuff is just stuff and can be replaced.  Or you can usually have a police officer go with you to keep him in line.  He seriously never leaves??  Yuk!!

Answer 12

first take your kid to someone elses house, then get a friend and have a talk with your bf. you cant just up and leave without a word, especially since you have a kid.

just dont have your kid be around and make sure you have someone, not some small female friend either try to get either a few people or a male in your family to go with you.

Answer 13

You need help.  You need to let him know you are leaving, first of all.  Have someone (or two or three) there with you, like a brother, parent, etc.  

Have you gone to a counselor?  It should not come as a surprise to him that you are leaving.  I know you've been fighting and arguing (been there!) but believe it or not, men are territorial with their women, and he does not believe you will leave.  Plus, once it hits him that not only will you be leaving, but he is going to have to give you money for 18 years, it really could throw him off the deep end.

Good luck.  You have an up-hill battle.  

Answer 14

yes go visit your parents, leave kids there and bring your father back to flat to break the news to him and get your stuff

Answer 15

You can do what I did when I left my first wife.  I called the cops and had them come out while I got my stuff together.  It is called preserving the peace, and the cops have to stay there the whole time.

Answer 16

Well I would pack my stuff in the middle of the night when he is asleep. Then the next day after work, I just wouldn't come home. Of course you do have to have your child with you. Hmmmm, can you tell him you have to go to the store and take the baby with you? I would at least get some things together that you need and put them somewhere, if you have to hide them somewhere. Just remain calm but start getting a plan together. I wish you very good luck.