How should i prepare my 8 yr old for the new arrival of my twins?

Question

i have an 8yr old daughter Kaila from a fling when i was a teenager & she has been spoilt constantly by me, my partner and my mom and my 2 sisters. She has lots of toys and has undivided love & attention. Now me and my partner Craig are expectign twins in September just after she goes back to school. I dont want her to feel neglected or unloved and i dont know what to do as i wont have as much time for her with the twins around?? HELP??x

Answer 1

Buy her a present and tell her it is from the twins to say 'thank you' for being their big sister.

Involve her in the preparations for the babies, like choosing clothes, toys, etc. And tell her she is going to be very important when the babies arrive as you will need a lot of help and support.

There are quite a few good children's books that help an only child deal with new siblings.

Good luck.

xx

Answer 2

just make sure you involved her in the twins upbringing (: im sure she will be soo happy too help!

Answer 3

Just make sure u have time for her. Alot of children feel left out once a new arrival comes and it's not fair.

Answer 4

Oh, I feel for you...and your 8 year old....we had a hard time with our 3yo when his brother was born....maybe an 8 yo will deal better, but keep in mind what a world shattering experience it is going to be for her....good luck.

Answer 5

well she int realy old enough to understand...

Just try explain sit her down and tell her she gonna have new

brothers/sisters,, and make sure you tell her you will still love her. Coz she could feel a little out of it when then come wiht all the time needed to look after twins

Congrats btw x

Answer 6

You should explain to her that shes going to be a big sister, and she gets to help you do things like pick out clothes for the babies, or she can tell you what toys she thinks they would like. Try to include her in activities, and let her know that when the kids are older they are really going to look up to her because shes a big sister. If you feel you arent spending enough time with her, you should be more affectionate with her, more hugs and kisses etc, and talk to her when you get a chance to find out how things are going.

Answer 7

Well.  first of all ... start now!!  don't wait to make any changes, that way your daughter won't think it has to do specifically with the twins.  Secondly, get her involved, she is old enough to help with the babies and then she will feel included.  there are many books in the bookstore, on big sisters.  One I really loved, was a baby book, for her to record things about the baby when you are doing the same.  Like anything else in life, there are changes.  If you show her love and praise, then she will still feel love.  Being spoiled, is not good regardless, one day it would have to stop.  Ask people if they purchase a gift for the arrivals, to get a little something for her.  I had some gifts already wrapped an put away, and pulled them out when someone brought a baby gift.  This will be an adjustment for the whole family, not just Kaila, and you will all do just fine.  don't worry so much, take one day at a time.

Answer 8

When the twins come have her be there when you are doing things with the twins. Make her interested in her new sisters or brothers. have her help out. good luck and congrats

Answer 9

tell them they'll have 2 new cute permanent friends to play with and babies need as much love as she had when she was also a baby because babies are helpless.