How should i react to this...?

Question

About a month ago i posted a question on here in relation to my son "grabbing' another girl in his class to make her laugh and the parents blew the situation out of proportion. (he is 6). I did call the parents directly and spoke to the mother and she was quite happy with the way i dealt with the situation with my son and explained to her that after talking with him on several occasions i believed that there was no sexual intent etc... it was just purely him trying to make her laugh as some of the boys did it to each other and made them laugh.

Now.... i thought the situation was over and done with. I had spoken to the school principal and school councellor and everyone is now happy that he made a simple mistake and that i have dealt with this satisfactory.

I find out today that she is bad mouthing my son quite badly to parents of other prep students and saying that he is 8 years old (he is only 6!!!) and that he has been kept back twice (he did repeat kindergarten once as he

Answer 1

I sooo mis understood what you said..I thought you meant the little girl. TELL the mom to grow up.

Discuss this with the pricipal and her together. Request a meeting and call her out. Squash this now otherwise this bully mom will keep it going for yrs.

Well, based on what you've written it doesn't sound like the

two situation are the same.

If she were bringing up that previous problem??

But some children just don't like others and

you have to decide if this is something that prompts

a discussion with the parents or if this prompts

a discussion with your child as a learning opportunity, that

sometimes this is how people behave and we can ignore them.

I really think you may want to consider teaching your son

how important it is to laugh at foolish people since he

will have to deal with them the rest of his life and

what she's

saying really is nothing in the grand scheme of things..

Have fun in the sand box life is too short :-)

Answer 2

Isn't it sad how some parent's act like kid's?

Seems like you have done what's best, I would just switch schools because moving " to another state" is a little to much to ask.

Just keep reminding your son to behave and it'll pass

Isn't school over soon?

Answer 3

Oh dang.

That really sucks.

Maybe you should just transfer schools.

There are totally idiot people in life and the mom and the daughter seem like they are some of those idiotic people.

Answer 4

Your first move would be to talk to this woman and ask her why she is doing this. There is no way anyone should think a 6 year old was doing that to be sexual, and her assuming that says more about her then it says about your son. The next thing you need to do is speak with the principle and councilor about the situation.

If they do not take care of it, then get a lawyer. This woman spreading rumors of this sort is harassment. Legally the school must protect your son from bullying, and that is what this is, only by a parent, not another student.

I would be nice and polite at first, but if that does not work, then it is perfectly acceptable to be a real B*tch when it comes to your child.

Also, if this is a private school, then it is different. If the principle does not give the other parent a very strong warning, or kick her out, then I would change schools. You do not need that woman in the same school if you can help it.

Answer 5

The best thing to do is to probably confront the lady doing all this to you and try to work it out. If that doesnt work then maybe you should try and explain yourself to those believing her.

Answer 6

if i were you and keep in mind I,m a mother of three one of them being a small innocent boy like yours,i would bypass the principal and telephone and confront the bad mouthing,center of attention your self.All rumors start somewhere so even if you haven't heard these things directly from her doesn't mean she didn't say them.Confront her,show her you are not afraid to stand up for your boy,who is only freaking 6 and did what all 6yrs old do but most go unreported or unnoticed because IT really is no big deal.I think you should put your foot down,not tuck tail and run change schools.Every school has busy body moms with nothing better to do than make your life miserable.You cant always hide from them.

Answer 7

Are you sure ..that the lady is bad mouthing...??

i suppose .. incase if  u have heard it from someone else..there is all the probability..that they are actually  doin the gossip...

and one more thing..let not your son ..know that you are too anxious abt it....he is a kid..afterall....

perhaps.. if ur son complains to you..that somebody is doing the gossip...ask him to go n talk in front of their face.

he will grow in confidence..&&& gossips....tend to die down..after sometime

Answer 8

You need to call the mother and confront her.  Be calm, yet confident that she is in the wrong.  He's 6 for goodness sakes.  If these parents really had a problem with him, I would think they would have gone to the school.  Tell her to start acting like an adult, and if she has a problem with your son she can talk to you about it with the principal.  Otherwise, she needs to show her daughter how to be respectful to people.  Even if you don't like them.  I hope your son hasn't experienced anything bad from these kids.  Maybe you should ask him about it.