How should my first grader son deal with some teasing before it gets out of hand.?

Question

He is the tallest in his class and a nicely built strong kid. The problem is that he not a fighter and just gets mad and upset if someone teases him. Two of the kids in his class are finding this funny and are beginning to target him just to get him mad. He has given my dad a bloody nose and has hurt my husband during play fighting so we all know what he is capable of. I know in my heart that if he hit one of these kids once ---the problem would be solved but my son is really afraid of getting in trouble at school and just doesn't like the idea of hitting somebody. Should I just tell him to do it? Walking away doesn't seem to be working.

Answer 1

If your son is getting teased and is unhappy in his class, maybe you could put him into a different one. In the long run, this might really get to him and make him sad and frustrated, maybe even scared of going to school. I would really talk to the school and ask if a replacement can be arranged so that your boy is happy and is looking forward to go to school.

Answer 2

Schools certainly will not tolerate hitting and there is a huge problem with your parenting skills if you think it's OK to hit just because of a few words.

Answer 3

My suggestion would be (considering his age) let the teacher take care of it. If the teasing is happening to him how many other kids are experiencing the same thing. If that doesn't work I would make the principal aware of the situation. Keep going up the chain of command until someone handles it.

Hopefully-it wont take that many getting involved before action is taken.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

I am going through a very similar situation with the expection that my son does hit any kid that teases him.  He is also the tallest in his class and has been very close to be suspended. I do not know which situation is best. I can only suggest to talk to you son everyday and assure him that he is loved and not to pay attention to what other kids say.  it is hard, very hard, but for him to know that he can always count with your support will help him tremendously. If it continues have a talk to the teacher. It is part of their job not only to deal with fights but also prevent them.  The may be able to change his sit away from the kids that tease him.

Answer 5

Talk to the teacher about this...she should handle the problem...if it persists after that ...talk to the principal... if that doesn't work ask for a meeting with the parents of these children and the principal......good luck.

Answer 6

I think that he should tell his parents or someone about this and the parents should tell the other parents.

Answer 7

you don't leave it up to him to deal with, YOU as the parent deal with it. He will get in trouble if he hits someone because someone calling him names doesn't mean he should hit them. You need to call the school and speak to the principal and let him/her know what is going on and the teacher as well. This is only first grade and I don't think it's appropriate to teach your child that it's ok to hit someone if they make you mad. Instead you should be trying to teach him mature responsible ways to deal with a bully. If they are only doing it to make him mad as you say then the problem could possibly be solved by acting like none of it bothers him so he is not giving them what they want.

Answer 8

I don't think you should tell him to do anything but nice to other kids.  I'm 6'6"" now and I was a really healthy kid in 1st grade.  But i was made fun of endlessly.  I never fought back or raised a yell...i mostly cried and got angry.  However I'm now a college graduate and hired to a really high paying job, mostly due to my ability to deal with conflict appropriately and handle criticism well.

Let your kid deal with it in his own way.  Console him when he gets upset and remind him that people act that way because there is something wrong in their lives.  Perhaps give some examples of people that act out b/c family life is hard or something.  The key is to make your son appreciate what he has and understand that people are mean because they don't have what he has.