How should she be punished?

Question

Shes 8 years old and she just got new cloths for school she lost half and cut up and ruined the other half nothing is working she been grounded spanked put in her room but she wont stop ....she even thinks shes not getting any other

Answer 1

Punishment leads to more punishment. Praise and correction work better at teaching appropriate behaviour. Once you are both calm, sit down and talk about what happened. It sounds like you are heading into a battle of wills. You CAN turn this around if you respect your daughter and listen. Why is she behaving this way? I would ask her. Then make sure she knows what you expect. At eight she can understand. Be prepared to negotiate the new way of things.  And remember to praise her lots when she succeeds. The first step though, is to reassure her she will never be punished, spanked, or put in her room, ever again.

Answer 2

get a stick and beat her

Answer 3

It sounds like she is getting teased at school for what she is wearing.  If not, I still think there is another problem as to why she is doing this...  Can you just maybe talk to her about it and ask what is going on?  Try to help her out!

Answer 4

STOP! That isn't a little girl misbehaving its a girl crying out for help! With school starting so soon, Something is Obviously wrong.(unless she act like this all the time) I wouldn't punish her so to say but try and find out what is wrong. Now I am not saying go out and buy her all new clothes, but poor thing sounds like a wreck. Counceling would be good.

Answer 5

I agree with lily, this is not a discipline issue, she needs to talk to someone  

Answer 6

If I was in that situation I would tell her she isn't going to get any thing new from me( toys,cloths,candy) until she starts taking care of her things.  Other than that I would not know what to do because my child is already in the habit of telling me that I am abusing him when I put him in time out.  I would be asking the same question if that didn't work.

I hope I helped out.

Answer 7

Nothing is working because you're not consistent with your discipline.  Obviously you have set no rules and no boundaries.  If my kids "lost" (how does a child lose their clothes to begin with?) and cut up their clothes they wouldn't get any more...simple as that.  HItting her isn't going to fix the clothing or find the lost ones but it will teach her that hitting is okay,  

Answer 8

Let her go to school in her cut up clothes and make sure the teacher knows that you are trying to help her learn something about consequences.  She may get some really strange looks from the kids or get teased but she most likely will learn the natural consequences of her actions.  Oh and be sympathetic and say "Oh wow!  Now you get to wear your new outfit to school!  

Answer 9

If that was my daughter she absolutely would NOT be getting any more clothes since she deliberately ruined the ones you just bought.

Answer 10

Take away something that she likes for example tv or something. Ive never had a hiding or been grounded and i feel guilty to disrespect my mums rules. My mum said that if u have a kid thats naughty like that u make them wear the clothes they ruined to school.