How should she punish her?

Question

i have a friend whos daughter stole 1000 dollars from her jewelry box. my friend has no idea how to punish her daughter. can you help?

Answer 1

press charges

Answer 2

Your friend has a few options. If she has a cell phone, computer internet access, etc., Mom can take these away. Also, she will need to do work to pay it off, even work around the house is fine. No money is to be given to her for going out with friends, etc. No new jewlery or clothing or cd's or anything-nothing that costs money besides food, shelter, and medical care until she "pays it back"

A chart can be drawn up with dollar ammounts for chores. like 10.00 for mowing the lawn, 1.00 for taking out garbage, 5.00 for doing dishes by hand, 5.00 for laundry wash and dry. 10.00 for fold and put away, etc.

I fshe is in crisis and is behaving this way often, it may be good to get her psychological help. Sometimes, also, reporting it to the authorities is an option, and a good "wake up call", but really its up to the mom based upon her daughter's needs.

She may also try asking her daghter what SHE thinks is an appropriate punnishment. Sometimes, kids are harder than themselves than we are on them!

Of course, whatever she does she needs to follow through 100% or her daughter will not learn a lesson.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but when I was growing up and 15 (which was only 9 years ago) I would have been booted out of the house. I had a somewhat strict upbringing and I turned out happy, healthy and law abiding citizen.

Answer 4

She should sit down with her and have a talk. Ask her why she felt that she needed to steal from her/why she did. Try to solve the problem. She needs to know that her mom loves her but what she did was wrong. I think that she should do chores to work of the money spent.

Answer 5

1000 hours of work around the house.  Laundry, dishes, scrub toilet, wipe mirrors, take out trash, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming.  

Make sure she does a good job otherwise make her do it all over again and tell her that do-overs will not account towards the 1000hours owed.  Remember if you don't do your job right your employer does not pay you to get things right the second time around.  

mow the lawn, or trim each blade of grass with a scissor if she really needs to kill the time, haha.  

1000hours for 1000 dollars

Answer 6

GROUND HER FOR A YEAR!! THAT WILL TEACH HER A LESSON

Answer 7

I would definetly suggest that the mother make the daughter work to pay back the money be that around the house or by making her get a real job and every single paycheck goes to Mom until everything is paid. I would also suggest that the Mom get a home drug test and require the daughter to take one every two weeks until the money is paid back as well as the door to her room taken off its hinges until Mom's paid back. The only reason a door should be allowed to be shut is when she is in the bathroom going or changing, no exceptions. Any phone priviledges should be suspended and any social outings should be suspended. I know that it sounds cruel and unusual, but it will teach her never to do it ever again. And believe me, it works, been there done that. Disouragement of the behaviour alone without grounding and without priviledges being taken away will not work. She has to realize now that her actions have serious and bracing consequences. Hope this helps!

Answer 8

find out why she steal the money.....

maybe make her clean the house, washing dishes.....

Answer 9

make her work to pay the money back. Thats only going to teach her to do worse things in the long run. something needs to be done about it now. Make her do work around the house and a real job. Hope things work out for your friend.

Answer 10

If that was my daughter, I would make her get a job and pay back every cent, and she would be grounded until it was all payed back.  Or have her spend the night in Juvenile Detention.

Answer 11

Take away something expensive that was bought for the girl.  Make her work around the house at minimum wage until she has paid for the item taken away and the $20 spent.  Maybe that will give her an appreciation for making money the honest way.

Answer 12

Grounding for two months , no priveleges what so ever ,

With the warning that she ever steals again that she will not be able to sit down for a few days after the spanking she would get .

Answer 13

that depends on how old the child is????

did she spend the money or give it back?

was she home alone at the time?

it's unfair for me to answer without more details

Answer 14

You don't say how old the daughter is or whether she returned the money when caught. If it was returned, then she should be grounded from computer, TV, etc. for a fairly long time. If not returned, then she needs to earn that amount, plus interest, and pay it back before she is allowed any activities like computer, TV or time with friends.

Answer 15

make her work to pay it back.

Answer 16

Wow!! She really deserves to be punished!! Take away the cellphone, the computer, and and privlages to her friends for the rest of the summer!! While now she has so much spare time let her do all the laundry and clean the house. If she has a boyfriend dont let her see him!! Take everything away!!! Good luck!!

Answer 17

Make her work it off!  Do chores around the house and give her a pay rate for each chore until she has worked for $1000.00 dollars, then she will see how hard the money is to come by.  Maybe, then she will reconsider stealing something her mom has worked hard for.  Even if she only spent $20.00, she still needs to learn the value of money.  As I said, make her work to see how hard $1000.00 is to make.  At 15, she is definitely old enough to know not to do this.  She also needs all privileges taken away.  No cell phone, talking to friends, going out, etc.  You have to be tough when kids do something like this because you don't want them stealing from a store or from other family members.  I remember I stole a toy from a store when I was 3 years old, and my mom found it and made me take it back and apologize to the store manager.  I was such a shy child that it was really hard to do, and I have never attempted to steal again.  You have to stop it when it starts no matter what age or it may continue.

Answer 18

SEND HER TO JUVENAL DELIQUESCE

tehe jks

let the police talk to her about stealing

Answer 19

Have her get a really crappy job that pays minimum wage and have her pay the mom back. Something with manual labor would be best, I think.

I'm usually not an advocate for teens getting jobs while in school, but I'd make an exception for this case.

Answer 20

Grounding for an extremely long time!