How should this be handled?

Question

I'm in a difficult situation. I just got a new job, which I'm stoked about b/c it pays well, has all the benefits, and is what I'm going to school for. Anyways, I'm due anyday with my second child, so will be sending her to daycare in 2 months, BUT my daycare provider doesn't start until 7:00 am, and I'd need to drop the kids off at 5:45 am. I have no family that can help watch the kids for an hour, then drop them off. Is is wrong that my daycare lady won't take them an hour early? Or should I just find another caregiver?

Answer 1

You knew the caregivers hours before. It is not her job to cater to you. You'll need to find someone new.

Answer 2

You can ask your provider to take them early.  If she says no then it's time to find another provider.  It isn't fair to expect that your provider will turn her life upside down to accommodate your needs...She has a life of her own.  Being a child care provider is a business!  Would you ask if it's fair that the post office won't open an hour and 15 minutes early for you?   I am a provider myself and I was really upset when the girl I babysat for walked off her job and assumed I would be willing to turn my life and plans inside out to accommodate her...she gave me no warning,  and never even bothered to ask me if I minded her shift change!   I felt very used,  as did my family!   A little consideration and respect goes a long way!    

Answer 3

It is not wrong for her to not take the kid an hour earlier.  She has the right to have her work schedule too.  Parents need to remember that daycare providers are people too. They have kids and families and obligations that they try to set their schedule around. So when a provider has a set schedule, you better mind it or go somewhere else.  

Answer 4

Why would it be wrong of her?  It's her business, she sets her own hours.  I would just find another caregiver -- as annoying as that is.  

Answer 5

Why would that be wrong of her?

You find another provider that will be able to work with your schedule.

Answer 6

You need to find a new caregiver.  

Answer 7

5.45 is very early! The poor lady needs rest as well. You will just have to find someone else

Answer 8

Your daycare provider has hours that honor most people's schedules and still allows her personal time for her family.  She shouldn't have to get up at 4:30 in the morning to get ready because your new job requires you to leave your kids by 5:45.  There are a couple things you could do:

1) Check to see if the hours at your new job are flexible enough to allow you to come in an hour later and stay an extra hour.

2) If you and your oldest really love this daycare provider, consider hiring a "morning nanny" to come by and get the kids ready and drop them off at daycare for you.  A neighbor you trust, even a college-aged student might work well for that hour or two, if she's reliable.

3) If neither of those options work, it's time to look for a new daycare.  However, I don't know of many open that early.

Answer 9

Is is wrong that my daycare lady won't take them an hour early?

is it wrong that YOU wont come to work an hour earlier?

is it worng that YOU wont stay at work an hour later?

is it wrong that YOU can't change your schedule for your child, but you expect this poor woman to??

Answer 10

"Is is wrong that my daycare lady won't take them an hour early?"

Oh, yes. Also if you decide you want to work weekends, she should take your children then, too. And if you want to go out in the evenings, she should take your children then, too. Also, stores should open earlier for you now that you'll be working early hours.  

Answer 11

find a different caregiver or talk to your work and see if they'd be willing to accommodate you. you'd be surprised how many bosses will be willing to help out parents