My husband and I moved about 8 hours away from his family a year ago. We now live near my parents. We are trying to determine how to handle his daughter's (R) birthday this year. Last year she didn't have a party because it was right after our wedding, and we didn't get a chance to put something together. It was just my parents and the neighbors, and ourselves.
Anyways, when I was younger birthday parties were with grandparents, aunts, and uncles. But R's aunts and uncles all live 6-8 hrs away. We now live near my aunts, uncles, and cousins. My cousins have young daughters also, and they have parties and invite the kids great aunts and uncles and 2nd cousins.
My husband says this is the way we should do it for R, but I think if we keep celebrating 2nd cousin's birthdays, then this will never end and will get out of hand. i would rather let R have a birthday with friends, and then a small get together with my parents and my husband's parents, if they can make the trip. My husband says if we do this, then we will not go to any of my 2nd cousin's birthday parties anymore. And he says then we are keeping R from spending time with the little girls.
I don't know what to do. I think it is ridiculous to be celebrating birthdays for my 2nd cousins, and if this continues, then as my cousins continue to have kids it will never end.... I also want R to have a great birthday, and I don't want to deny her a family birthday party.
any thoughts or advice would be great.
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