How soon after a person has been a widow is it ok to call for a date ?

Question

Is it reasonable to think that someone you loved from your past that you haven't seen in several years could suddenly come out of the past right into your future? We were crazy about each other. She has been a widow for a year.

Answer 1

The big guy upstairs brings people into our lives when he feels its time.  Things happen for a reason.  Good luck!

Answer 2

Regardless of the lady's personal feelings, there may be a protective concern about any children, (if she has any) as replacing their father is a major issue for any mother worth her salt. If so, you need to be there as a friend for the young ones, only then may they accept you over time, as a true member of the family.

Answer 3

the time is up to the widowed person

I personally know of a couple who were mad for each other 27 years.  She died unexpectedly from an accident and the sister in law flew in for the funeral and support.

Low and behold 2 weeks later this man married his sister in law as they had started a romance and were mad for each other before the bed was even cool.  Rebound? ...probably lots of things that are little odd with this questionable situation but to elaborate I have also personally known my wife's grandmother who grieved the loss of her husband till the day she had died.

Her husband died when she was in her 40's I believe and she had not gone on any dates or entertained any other romances with anyone else till the day she died at 78

My point being...  each individual is different.  The amount of time is really up to them and the only way of knowing if they are willing ready and wanting to start courting again is to merely ask!  =)

Answer 4

That is very reasonable. I was widowed in 2003 and I started dating again in 2004

Answer 5

IT DEPENDS IF SHE IS READY TO DATE AGAIN SOMETIMES THAT TAKES AWHILE. THE POINT SHE HAS TO BE READY.

Answer 6

I think a year is a reasonable amount of time for you to wait, and the only way you'll know for her is to ask her how she feels about seeing someone since she is now widowed.  I guess it depends on how much she loved and still thinks about her husband.  

Answer 7

i think a year is good, but don't pressure her too much.  everyone heals differently.

Answer 8

A year is perfect.

I hope this leads to happiness for both of you!

Answer 9

As soon as the hearts ready to do so. There is no time frame.