How soon after an adoption is final is it considered appropriate to see someone?

Question

I gave a child up for adoption recently, and have been receiving date invitations, and have turned them down. However, I do wish to date. How soon is it "alright" to do so?

Answer 1

When ever you feel its right....Do it for the right reasons and not to cover your greif.  Give yourself time to greive and don't rush anything. But don't pass up the chance to meet the man of your dreams, You never know when God will put someone in you life for life. Take it slow and learn from your experiences.

Best wishes.

Answer 2

I think you should get on with your life as soon as you are ready.  Just make sure you don't repeat past mistakes.  

I'm proud of you for making a loving choice for your child. It was the hardest choice and I'm sure even harder after you gave birth.

I am the mother of a 28 year old adopted daughter.  I prayed frequently for my daughters biological mother and I suspect there's someone out there praying for you too.

Answer 3

There is no right time.  It is completely okay to go on a date right away, you gave your child up for what was best for the child and you should nor punish yourself, dont worry about what others think that you are dating.  If you are worried about whether or not the guy will think of you, it would be best to wait to tell him after you think that the relationship will go somewhere but make sure you tell him before someone else does.  What happened to the child father?

Answer 4

That's your business.  You have to do whatever feels right to you.  When you are comfortable to date, then do so.  Don't worry about what others may or may not think of you.  When your heart feels it then do it.  Just make sure that you can do that emotionally without being somewhere else mentally on your date.  You shouldn't punish yourself for that decision by not dating.

Answer 5

I would say whenever you feel comfortable. I wouldn't worry about what others think.

Answer 6

I really hadn't considered that one had anything to do with the other. If you are ready to move on with your life, by all means do so. Much luck to you.

Answer 7

I think it is up to you. Whenever you feel comfortable.

Answer 8

I think whenever you are ready. You don't have to tell them about the baby till you know it's serious.

Answer 9

After reuniting with my mother lost through adoption I discovered she married the next man she dated.

Answer 10

There really isn't a set time, just abstain so you aren't confronted with the same problem again until you are ready to face life to the fullest with a child.

Answer 11

there is no "right" time.just when you feel comfortable.