How soon is 2 soon to have another baby?

Question

So lately i have been having mixed emotions about having another baby. my fiance seems to really want another baby! our duaghter is 2 and 1/2 years old and if i got pregnant she would be 3 by the time the baby would be born! is that to soon? how would that effect brooke? please help me, if you have 2 kids please let me know the age difference and how having a second baby effected your first!

Thanks

Answer 1

i think that is perfect. that is when i want to have my second. just make sure you get her excited for it. let her make a onsie with the babies name for the baby to wear home. let her help decorate the room, let her help pick the name. take her to your sonagrams. make sure she knows that  you are all having a baby not just the parents. if you include her she will get just as excited as you will. if you leave her out she will resent you and the baby and be very jealous when the baby comes. good luck and have fun!!!

Answer 2

well it depends on a few factors, is your body healthy and ready to have another baby. Are you secure that you have given enough attention to your first child, to make her secure with having another baby. Try to baby sit a friends new born first and see how she reacts to another kid getting attention. Also let the baby spend the night and see how it affects things with you and your hubby, when it cries in the middle of the night or he has to change diapers again. Another thing is these things change as the kids get older, where as now it may seem like they are too close together in age, but when they are in high school and they are best friends it may seem good that they are close in age. If you have them too far apart, maybe they wont have anything in common when they get older and each of them will go through the "only child not having any body to play with" phase. It changes per situation, but there is so much to consider when preparing for baby number 2.

Answer 3

I think your daughter is at the perfect age for you to start trying for another baby, she will be young enough that she can have a close relationship with her sibling and old enough to where she can do a lot of things on her own, feed herself, she should be potty trained by the time the baby gets here if not already, and she's also old enough to where she can play and keep herself occupied by herself a lot better than she could when she was younger.  

Answer 4

our kids are 3 years a part and we love it they dont share to well now but that is normal...my kids are 7,4,1...

Answer 5

my kids are 15 months apart. I am pregnant again and there will be a 3 and 5 year difference. I would have had this one sooner actually, but it wasn't in our plans apparently. Anyway I think your daughter is old enough to understand about having a brother or sister. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I'm not a mom but one of six children and know tons of folks with kids. The way your daughter will respond will depend a lot on how you handle it.

My youngest siblings are around 2 years apart and though they had the usual squabbles when young, they are all very very close now.

Their own kids are around the same age and they all try to get together a lot so that the cousins stay in touch.

My advise is to have your second when you feel ready.

Answer 7

There really is no 'too soon' when it comes to having another child.  I know people who were pregnant again when they went in for their 6-week post-partum checkup.  It happens.  For me, I wanted to wait until my older daughter was 18 months before trying to have another (making her a little over two when it was born).  I thought that at 18 months they are getting a little more independent and it is still close enough that the kids could play together.  I ended up getting pregnant when my daughter was 16 months and the baby was born right before her second birthday.  She was fine with him joining the family.  We had very little jealousy (just a tiny bit...as expected) and she adjusted well.  I had a harder time, it has only been in the past few weeks that I feel sanity returning (Ethan is 4 months).  I think that now would be a good time to have another, if you want them close in age.

Answer 8

Medically it's best to wait a year between pregnancies.  Since you have passed that milestone long ago, start trying again whenever you wish to.  There is no one perfect age gap between children.