How soon to date after getting a divorce?

Question

My ex-husband left me in january, but mentally he has been separated from our relationship for probably a year. Our divorced was final a few weeks back and my question is would it be wrong for me to start dating? I want to meet new people and start new relationships with people. I don't want to rush into anything but I do want to see what is out there for me. Also my ex-husband has been in a relationship since he left because he left me for another woman. Thank you all for taking the time to help me out!

Answer 1

To tell you the truth right away. When i was in the middle of the split with my ex i started dating right away it didnt feel right but it helped to get over my ex and the situation. But i was ready and willing to let the men no i just got out a marriage and im not rushing any thing so if you aint got time its not gunna happen. An i want to let you that you will find a great man i did and i no you can it takes time but once it comes you will be over whelmed with joy. Good luck hunnie and be incouraged.

I wanted to add that dont let no one else say anything about it you cant listen to other ppl you have to make your self happy not them. An no one can judge you but GOD.

Answer 2

Having been there myself twice now I know you feel like you are ready to date and start your new life. But the reality is a year from now you will probably look back and say wow I really wasnt as ready as I thought. It takes time to get over a long term relationship.

Answer 3

One year - you need to take one year to get to know yourself as a single person.  Before that, it is not fair to another person to bring him into your drama.  If he's worth it, he will wait.  

Answer 4

A general rule is to wait about half the length of time you were married. For ex. - Married 2 years, wait one to date again.

Just a general rule- -it's different for everyone....if you feel likle dating again now, do it!  

Answer 5

Date because YOU want to not because of if he is or not. Date because you feel ready not because you  want to look better in the ex's eyes or his girlfriends.

Now go out there and have fun and don't rush into getting married so fast  

Answer 6

It's not wrong for you to want to date, as long it's for all the right reasons. Like you said, take it slow. Some get into relationships fast because their other ex-half is, or they feel they always need someone. Take it slow and it should be fine.  Jump into something, it will be a total rebound.  

Answer 7

You've answered your own question...life goes on...mentally u guys have been over for a year....nobody that loves and understands your needs and wants as a woman would not be negative towards u...its time for your friends to take u out and party!  whooo hoo!  

Answer 8

You can start any time you want. Some people will be negative, but you can't please everyone. I say go for it and the best of luck to you.

Answer 9

I THINK YOU CAN START DATING WHENEVER YOUR READY!

Answer 10

If you feel ready to start dating again, then go for it! I don't think there's really a specific timeline on when you can start living your life again. If you both have been mentally separated for a while, then you are probably more than ready to start something new! You deserve happiness. Good luck!

Answer 11

Only you will know when the time is right. My guess is that you are ready now to test out the waters sodo just that

Answer 12

Whenever you feel comfortable to do so.