How t feel secure leavingmy son with a baby sitter?

Question

i had a son 14 weeks ago, and now it is time for me to go back to school, and to leave him with a daycare worker. but i dont feel comfortable leaving hhim with my family, let alone a stanger. when people always see me in pulic with cooper, they want to hold him or touch him. idk if its the fact that i didnt get to hold him till he was 1 month old bcuz he was in the nicu, or if it is because im a new mom? does anyone have advice to help me, i have to go to school, so somebody has to watch him

Answer 1

I'd say the most important thing you can do is make sure your babysitter is completely trained in infant cpr, heimlich, and safety precautions. will he or she know what to do in case of an emergency? also make sure you have the numbers for poison control readily available, as well as specific detailed instructions written out regarding sleep, feedings, toys and anything else you feel needs to be clarified. ask how long the person has been working with babies. just do your homework and choose carefully. many hospitals offer babysitting courses that Red Cross certifies teenagers and adults working in daycares, agencies and independent babysitters.  

Answer 2

It's probably a little of both!  I admit when my babies were little, I carried hand sanitizer and baby wipes, no one was to touch either of them with dirty hands!  Yes, it offended people, but my babies didn't get colds, and that was more important to me, I imagine that you have even better reason to be fearful then I did!

You probably won't feel secure or happy about leaving your child with a babysitter.  But finding someone you really really trust, a friend, or someone who has babysat for a friend with rave reviews should help.  If you can't find a person who you know and trust a hundred percent, I would recomend finding a daycare, just as important as knowing someone is watching your baby, is knowing there is someone watching the person watching your baby, if that makes sense.

Answer 3

Honey, the fact that you feel like this makes you a good mother. Go with it the best you can. Listen to your gut when looking for a sitter.  

Answer 4

You should seriously consider a home care provider such as a nanny vs. a day care center. Day care centers are INCREDIBLY germy, especially the infant and toddler rooms. Day care employees also have to balacnce between caring for many babies at the same time, vs. a 1 on 1 experience.

With a nanny, you can really get to know intimately the person who is caring for your baby. You can drop by at any time to see what is going on, and you have the right to install nanny cams if you think your nanny may not be completely honest with you. You will most likely save money, and by taking the middle man (the center) out, your nanny will make more money and thus be more commited to her job. There is a great website for finding nannies called www.sittercity.com if you decide to go in that direction. I personally have worked in day cares and also as a nanny and I have found that day cares often have lots of shady things going on with them. The only disadvantage to having a nanny is that your baby may not be socialized as well, but you could always send him to day care when he is older! Anyway, this is just my opinion, I hope you find what is right for you! Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 5

Moms are naturally protective of their babies.

I'm sure you've done this, but find a babysitter you feel COMPLETELY comfortable with and you know has experience. It's normal to feel uncomfortable leaving him with someone else. But remember that he's not feeling nearly as bad about it as you. He'll be fine:)

Cooper is one of the names we thought of for my baby, by the way. I love it. :)

Answer 6

I don't want to leave my son either.  I"ll be working just 5 mins away but I"m still nervous.  The Friday before I have to leave him there I plan to go hang out with my son at the babysitters for the a couple hours then leave him for a few hours to spend some alone time with my husband.  I'm hoping that makes me feel better.

Answer 7

I'm going back to school too! I'm leaving my son with my neighbor so I know her quite well so i'm not really in this situation.

Go to the daycare and meet the babysitter (a few times). See how she interacts with your baby. Your baby has to get used to being with someone new too!

Good luck!