How the h**l do i get this mother off my case?

Question

my mom is waaayy too protective of me. i really want her to p**s off. Im 16 year old boy. How do i tell her? if i start talkin shell get really angry.... shes sooo annoying.

Answer 1

Your mom is more frighten then you!  She knows of the major dangers.  You are smart enough that I think you will realize this.  Give her some attention and love.  Take a positive approch rather than a p**s off approch.  You will experience life as you get older.  Honey don't rush it so many kids make that mistake then regret it later.  You have a mother and there are so many times I would like to just be with my mother and listen to her.  This is about you so grow with it and not p**s with it.

Answer 2

Growing up is not easy, but it isn't any easier for your mom to watch you grow up either.  Please realize your mom isn't trying to annoy you, she's trying to do what she thinks a good mother should do.

Here's my suggestion.  If you SHOW your mom that you are responsible and mature, maybe she'll let up a little.  If you SHOW her you can prioritize, make good decisions by thinking things through, and that you are capable of staying out of trouble, when you sit down to talk to her, you'll have some pretty good ammunition.

Look, keep your room clean, do your own laundry and take care not to ruin the nice clothes your mom buys for you, help out around the house and in the yard without being asked or reminded, show an interest in what she's doing and how her day has been.  When she's doing something, ask if she needs any help (even if she's just fixing dinner).  Keep your grades up and mind your manners.

I know it sounds stupid, but many parents make decisions about what they think their child should be allowed to do based on how he/she acts.  If you act childish, she's going to treat you as a child.  If you conduct yourself as an adult, she will begin to treat you as such.

That being said, give yourself a month of good, solid mature behavior and then sit down with your mom and talk to her.  If you cannot control your attitude and tone of voice if she begins to get angry, then don't bother even sitting down with her.  The whole idea is to SHOW your mom you are growing up and should be able to have more freedom.

Now, write down the things you want to be allowed to do.  Below each item, write down why you think you should be allowed to do that. Under that, write down some rules that you will follow and under that a couple of punishments you will abide by should you break the rules.  For example, you want to stay out during the week until 11 pm.  Under that, write down that you will make sure your mom knows where you are and who you are with even when you move from one location to another.  You will call her if you are going to be late and will not make a habit of breaking curfew.  Under that, write down that if you don't follow the rules or if you make a habit of breaking curfew you will hand over your cell phone for a week.  You have to make sure the punishments hit YOU where it hurts.  It will make things seem more realistic and will show your mom you have been thinking about things and have been trying to see things from her perspective.  Anyway, you get the picture.  

REMEMBER THIS!  Do not ever use "my friends get to" or "my friends don't have to" as a reason for wanting to do anything.  Your mom isn't raising your friends, she's raising you.

I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Well, the only way I managed to get through my sixteen year old experience was a portable c.d. player. (that's pod for you.) plug it in, and zone out. Don't talk to her, and when she talks to you, tell her what she wants to hear. THat's the only way she will leave you alone.  

Answer 4

She may be too protective over you, but at least you have a mother who cares.  Some people would steal to be in your shoes.  Realize that she loves you and wants to do the best for you.  Yes, you're 16, but are you a responsible 16 year old?  If you are, sit down with your mother and talk to her.  Tell her that you are getting up in age, and that you want a little space.  Good luck.

Answer 5

Did you do something that cause her to be waaayyyy protective of you? hmm..Your mother is not being annoying,You just want to do something you ain't got no business doing, so she stays on you..I know many young men who wished they had a mothers love and h**l! even attention-why? because most of them have been locked up! kicked out of school,drinking,smoking weed(yes!) fighting..Boy! what did you do! Because its apparent shes a parent with very little trust, so what did you do or say to your mother?Think about it!