How threatened do you have to be?

Question

My question about the meaning of the word mother has been deleted by someone. I think that's a shame because there were some great answers. I wanted to give someone best answer.

I'm sure this will be a violation at some point, too. That's fine. I'm not complaining about the violation. I just feel bad for all those people that took the time to write some great answers. (I was torn between Kazi's answer and Sunny's.)

Is the thought that "mother" might mean something other than a perfect human being so threatening to someone that they have to claim the question is a violation? Are people that insecure in their situations.

Answer 1

moth·er1  /ˈmʌðər/ –noun

1. a female parent.  

2. (often initial capital letter) one's female parent.  

3. a mother-in-law, stepmother, or adoptive mother.  

4. a term of address for a female parent or a woman having or regarded as having the status, function, or authority of a female parent.  

5. a term of familiar address for an old or elderly woman.  

6. mother superior.  

7. a woman exercising control, influence, or authority like that of a mother: to be a mother to someone.  

8. the qualities characteristic of a mother, as maternal affection: It is the mother in her showing itself.  

9. something or someone that gives rise to or exercises protecting care over something else; origin or source.  

10. (in disc recording) a mold from which stampers are made.  

–adjective 11. being a mother: a mother bird.  

12. of, pertaining to, or characteristic of a mother: mother love.  

13. derived from or as if from one's mother; native: his mother culture.  

14. bearing a relation like that of a mother, as in being the origin, source, or protector: the mother company and its affiliates; the mother computer and its network of terminals.  

–verb (used with object) 15. to be the mother of; give origin or rise to.  

16. to acknowledge oneself the author of; assume as one's own.  

17. to care for or protect like a mother; act maternally toward.  

–verb (used without object) 18. to perform the tasks or duties of a female parent; act maternally: a woman with a need to mother.  

—Idiom19. mother of all, the greatest or most notable example of: the mother of all mystery novels.  

From this source, i'd say the only reason someone would erase your answer is because of insecurity or reading something else into your question

Answer 2

[You're to overly sensitive anyway....]

Define what "overly sensitive" even means.

Besides, according to many other users here, anything that's said that doesn't go along the lines of "I'm a Happy Adoptee and that's ALL there is to adoption!" is considered "overly sensitive."

Oh, by the way, I tried PMing you on this one only to find out your IM option is blocked. Get some backbone for a one-on-one discussion before you go around reporting "violations" that aren't even "violations."

Answer 3

Yes they are Phil.  

Some people will attack you for just asking a simple question that they are not emotionally ready to address or goes against their belief system. Those people only want to be validated not questioned. They don't want to know the truth or see the reality of things.

I personally liked Freckles response to your question.  

Answer 4

Apparently people are threatened over it.  The first responder to this question, Ms. "No to 4 more years of bush," is clearly affected.  She's overly senseLESS.

There were some great, thoughtful responses to the question.

Answer 5

I loved this question and also don't understand why it was deleted.  Both answers were great (Kazi's and Sunny's) too bad you couldn't have two best answers!

Answer 6

Your question, and the responses seemed rather benign and civil.  It surprises me that it would be deleted, or that anyone would be offended to the point of wanting it deleted.  It's quite petty if someone did that.

On the other hand, wasn't there a thread on here not too long ago where people were talking of how questions were being randomly deleted?   Unless you received a notice that it was deleted, it's possible it was just one of those random deletions again.

Answer 7

There are a few people here that are so much in denial that they can not deal with any difference in thought or opinion.  This is also a sign of lower intelligence.

Answer 8

There are some people who will report anything. If they address you and get you to respond, they'll report you as "chatting."

Did you do that? Happened a couple times to me.

Answer 9

Phil - I feel for you.  It is absolutely ridiculous.  I had 3 questions reported last week.  

While I agree there needs to be a monitoring of Y/A, the questions here that are reported and removed do not really fall into the "harm to the community" category.  People are just down right mean.

Chances are this question won't last either.  Best.

Answer 10

I think the first answer (which seems to have now been deleted) says it all Phil.

Such sad ignorant hurtful people that frequent this place.

Don't let the crazys get you down.

I truly appreciate your voice.

Answer 11

I don't understand why you're assuming that people are "insecure in their situations" and so they (it takes more than one person) deleted YOUR question.  Maybe you violated a Y!A rule or something.  I've received a couple violations this week.  So, you're not the only one.  But, I don't complain about it, I just try to figure out why and not do it again.

Anyway, I don't think that the term "mother" means anything other than what someone else posted as the "dictionary" answer.

Answer 12

I hope you appealed it.  It was an important question.  I'm glad you reposted it.

Answer 13

I took this philosophy class once and in the beginning we started out on a debate if God existed. A girl who believed in God pretty deeply was so insulted that anyone would question God's existence she stood up, cursed out the teacher and left the class. She never came back.

The teacher ended the debate saying that it happens once every few years, and that if she was really secure with her beliefs and positions, another point of view wouldn't have threatened hers so much.

When peoples foundations are questioned, they'll either question it to find a more solid answer, ( i believe questioning my beliefs is healthy for me ) or they'll insult, and run. I find that differing opinions don't threaten me as much anymore because i'm secure in my beliefs.

too bad the person who deleted your question doesn't feel the same.

Answer 14

What was wrong with the question? It was about as offensive as "I'm okay, how 'bout you?"

I think it's ridiculous that adults can't have conversations without someone crying to big brother without having the balls to actually take credit for the complaint.

Whoever didn't like the question, who are you and what is your beef?

It was a good question, Phil and I am flattered that you appreciated my answer.

Answer 15

Yes, Phil they are.

I just recently have a question deleted too.  I asked if adoptees were often talked down to, your first answerer is a perfect example.  That question was deleted.  Don't let anyone silence you!  ((((Phil)))

Thanks, Independant.  I try to give honest & real answers.  The truth isn't always pretty.