How to Convince My Mom?

Question

I'm 13 and I'm staying with my sister. I have more friends here than I do at my regular house, I believe in the Christen religion and my sister is Christen while my mom is Catholic, and I'm always happier here than at my regular house. I've asked my mom if I can move in with my sister and she says no while my sister wouldn't mind. All I told my mom is that it's more fun here. I'm afraid to tell her about my religion because I don't want her to think my sister brainwashed me (my mom would think that), I usually talk about having lots of friends at my regular house but I only have 2 real friends there while I have 5 real friends here. I'm trying to join the choir at my sister's church so I would have a better chance of staying here. I have a crush on the pastor's son and I'm trying to get the guts to ask him out but it's hard for me to because he is one of my best friends here. How can I get the guts to ask him out without ruining our friendship? How can I convince my mom to let me stay?

Answer 1

Haha! Ah, I see the great motivator here. So, what happens when the pastor's son doesn't like you back? You still going to want to be in the choir...doubtful at best. Catholicism is a Christian religion. You spell Christian with an 'ia' not an 'e'. You never mentioned how old your sis is. Sorry, bucko, you need to stay home with your mom.

Answer 2

Ah, Catholics are Christians.  Just not Protestants. Both believe in Jesus Christ.

it does sound as if you have a good network of friends at your sisters. I take it she doesn't live in the same city as your Mom and you do.

BE reasonable.  Tell her you had a great summer vacation and would like to go back at Christmas.

Let your sister tell your mom how much she enjoyed you and that she would enjoy you staying with her.  

Some of this is a money thing.  If you lived with your sister your mom would probably have to pay for your board.  She may not have the money to do that.  

You will probably just have to settle for vacation time for now, in 3 years you can work and it becomes easier to relocate.

Answer 3

honestly i think you should just sit your mother down nd tell her how you feel about your religon then have your sister talk to your mother and ask her if you can stay then wright a list of pros and cons of staying at your sisters house think of all possible ones if it still doesnt work tell you pastor to talk to your mom and if she finaly decides ttto say yes then wright her a long letter telling her thankl you and tell her that you love her a lot and stuff like that

GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

First, its Christian.

Catholics are Christians too.  Its all part of Christianity.  Your little understanding in the Christian religion leads me to think that this is not your primary reason.

Your crush on the pastor's son is part of it, I'm sure.  And the length of church service is probably too.

Tough it out and live at home.  She may be strict, but I don't gather its a bad environment at home.

Answer 5

First of all, just because you are Christian doesn't mean that you are going against Catholic religion. As Catholics have the same principal beliefs (just with some stuff added on). At 13 I wouldn't ask out a pastor's son, let him do the asking - you don't want to be chasing after boys, you want them to chase after you! (In a good way of course)

I would suggest just writing out a list of pro's and cons to show to your mom about moving in with your sister if that is what you really want to do. Tell her that you are not abandoning her and that you will come visit, but that you have more friends and are more involved in the community when you are with your sister.

Answer 6

Turn buddhist

Answer 7

im sorry to say but i think ur too young to move in with your sister and thats probbaly why she is saying no.  as for as the religion, tell her the truth about it, tell her that u feel like catholic isnt for you just be honest with her.  see if she will just let u go to the church with ur sis and join the choir as for the boy just ask him but sorry sweetie my daughter isnt going to date at 13 still a bit too young for the dating life but anyway good luck

Answer 8

First, you should know that Catholics are Christians. You haven't said what denomination of Christian you are (Baptist, Methodist, etc), but hopefully your mom won't be too upset, as you've just changed denominations, not religions.

Second, try writing down all of the reasons to stay with your sister, and all of the reasons you think your mom would not want you to. That way you will be prepared to have the conversation with her, and you'll know what her objections might be. For example, if you think she will be unhappy about seeing you less, offer to spend a certain number of afternoons with her, or if she is worried that your sister will not be strict enough, offer to still follow all of your mom's rules. That sort of thing will show that you are mature enough to decide where you want to live.

Good luck.

Answer 9

tell her you like the pastor's son therefore you want to join christen religion...also say that she's mad

lol i bet you'll get a serious beating after saying this

Answer 10

get used to keep ur secret for u. You're better than atheists. Don't blurt things out wither good or bad. just keep it for u

this will help u in future.

Answer 11

IDK GET IT i mean catholic is the same thing with Christen.

well i mean , not to be rude and all christens are a little more

stricter than catholics. I'm catholic i should know

Answer 12

I think you should just tell her how you feel. Tell her that you;'ll be a happier person if you move in with your sister and that maybe you can work out a negotiation. Like normal days with your sis and weekends with your mom.

I do think that 13 is kinda too young to move out of your house... and your mom loves you and she'll miss you =[

Answer 13

There will be other boys, don't worry too much about that.  As far as staying with your mom, if you do go back to live with her, just tell her you would rather go to church at a christian church.  Once you go to the church you will have lots of friends there too.  Remember Christ is with you and is your best friend no matter who you live with or where you live.  Wherever you end up, it's because that's where he needs you to serve him! Everything happens for a reason.

Answer 14

just tell her how u feel about it

and is he hot do u have any pic of him

tehe

tell her u have more friends where ur sis lives

if she starts yelling run to ur nearest park

or a happyplace

or the pastiors house

haha jk

hope i helped bye.

Answer 15

I'm catholic myself and i think your mum would understand i think if you just slowly ease it out to her it will soon turn around. hope this helps x.

Answer 16

FIRSTLY DONT ask him out before u ask ur mom to let you stay with your sister do well in school or prove to ur mom that u can be trusted with big responsibilities or if that doesnt work make her breakfast in bed on her day off if she works  and then ask her

Answer 17

well just tell her you would like to staty at ur sis house and you can visit ur mom on weekends, try to get ur sis too convince ur mom too, and  dont be afraid to ask him out or if youre to scared go on a group date